"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I feel like I'm starting to slowing pick up my old AFC habbits. I was on top of my game up until a month ago, then I got charged for DUI and had to spend like 2 weeks in jail. Sitting there caused me to do a lot of relecting and primarily looking at the negative aspects.

As a result I've noticed that I am acting less DJ w/ my g/f. I'm showing her alot more emotions, I'm talking about myself and situation alot more (losing mystery etc...) In general, prior to this, I was confident in all areas, I controlled the relationship w/ her and w/ the women around me in general as well. I'm suring losing my car/licence and the financial setbacks are having an effect too.

How can I snap out of it? How can I regain control w/ my g/f, its not that she's taken control, its more along the lines of me acting more AFC. Any advice is appreciated.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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what EXACT AFC behaviors are you talking about?

showing a girl emotions and talking more dosen't
automaticlly make you less attractive or less in control
unless you are completly wallowing out and losing it in front of her.
 
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Well its an internal problem. Maybe you are in a depression? So need to fix your life - maybe see a doctor.
 
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I agree that it is an internal problem. However, I don't need to fix my life, I screwed up, now I have to live w/ the consequences ie no licence. There is nothing I can do to fix that, its something I have to deal with.

I am not depressed, I just don't have the same outgoing high confidence level that I had prior. My behaviour so far has NOT affected me negatively w/ my g/f, however I can foresee it dwindling away if I don't get back to the increased confidence level and overall DJ ways.

I'm not losing it in front her, I just don't see it as being DJ. Maybe I"ll have to try play up the bad boy image that they are attracted to. Any other ideas?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This is mainly due to your focus. If you focus yourself on fixing up your life and by that I mean live by your principles, if you live by your principles then there isn't anything that will worry you becuase you'll always have control and not be so self conscious about whether you're being mysterious or not.
 
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