"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I feel like I'm starting to slowing pick up my old AFC habbits. I was on top of my game up until a month ago, then I got charged for DUI and had to spend like 2 weeks in jail. Sitting there caused me to do a lot of relecting and primarily looking at the negative aspects.

As a result I've noticed that I am acting less DJ w/ my g/f. I'm showing her alot more emotions, I'm talking about myself and situation alot more (losing mystery etc...) In general, prior to this, I was confident in all areas, I controlled the relationship w/ her and w/ the women around me in general as well. I'm suring losing my car/licence and the financial setbacks are having an effect too.

How can I snap out of it? How can I regain control w/ my g/f, its not that she's taken control, its more along the lines of me acting more AFC. Any advice is appreciated.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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what EXACT AFC behaviors are you talking about?

showing a girl emotions and talking more dosen't
automaticlly make you less attractive or less in control
unless you are completly wallowing out and losing it in front of her.
 
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Well its an internal problem. Maybe you are in a depression? So need to fix your life - maybe see a doctor.
 
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I agree that it is an internal problem. However, I don't need to fix my life, I screwed up, now I have to live w/ the consequences ie no licence. There is nothing I can do to fix that, its something I have to deal with.

I am not depressed, I just don't have the same outgoing high confidence level that I had prior. My behaviour so far has NOT affected me negatively w/ my g/f, however I can foresee it dwindling away if I don't get back to the increased confidence level and overall DJ ways.

I'm not losing it in front her, I just don't see it as being DJ. Maybe I"ll have to try play up the bad boy image that they are attracted to. Any other ideas?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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This is mainly due to your focus. If you focus yourself on fixing up your life and by that I mean live by your principles, if you live by your principles then there isn't anything that will worry you becuase you'll always have control and not be so self conscious about whether you're being mysterious or not.
 
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