"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Goals regarding women

Rainman4707

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What are your goals regarding women?

My goal was is to find a girl who I want for a LTR & ultimately create a family. I want kids.

I'm interested to find out what the guys goals are on this forum considering I've spent a lot of time interacting with them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dear Rainman,
Can you see the value of putting your age down?...Old Will spoke of the Seven ages of Man,yours is the age when every intelligent Man as a duty to his race and forbears should reproduce...Howls of anguish from the Mice LOL!
 

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Dear Tictac,
When it comes to pithy brevity and the ability to cut to the quick,you take the cake...your last contribution says soo little but then again soo much...I would not like to haggle Business with you...Good Luck!
 

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Right now I don't have any regarding woman. I'm not actively pursuring any. I haven't taken a extended break in a very long time, it's time to reboot & do that. Maybe come summer time.

I'm @ crossroads & working on myself right now. Possible find a new company to work for and get to that next level.

My only debt is 2k on my car, looking forward to paying that off & get some maintenance done. I can easily put another 100k miles on it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ubercat

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Yeah - I'm on sabattical too. Just got out of 10 years of LTRs including 2 live-ins so I figure I've at least earned a year off for bad behavour. So far is good - lost 10 kg and still slightly social. Fixing up old house, paying down mortgage - should be read to buy an investment property this year if job hangs together. Approach and dating is fun - but sucks time. Still doing a bit of PUA study and fake cold approaches to keep my hand in. Not MGTOW yet ;-) Probably do sum OLD to keep the pipes clean once the bod and $ goals reached. I tell people 'I'm happily single' and I am.
 

ubercat

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Arrgh I mean DJ not PUA. I'm definitely more Cary Grant than Vin Diesel
 

ubercat

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Weird 1st post previewed but didn't. Anyway long story short I'm on sabbatical too after 10 years of LTRs. Losing weight, playing sports, fixing old house and stashing cash. Probably some OLD later on to ease back in once I've reached a couple of goals.
 

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I want to get to the point of dominating myself and put my stuff first before any woman.. I've progressed tons but there's always more room for improvement.

Deep inside even those that say that they despise women want a good woman ( I know, a lot of variables to this meaning) I am no exception to wanting one as well.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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To never EVER have one believe or say that I am in touch with my "feminine side.' The only feminine side that I'm touching is hers.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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glass half full

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Taking a break right now. Getting health issues under control, then going to get back into shape and get job secure.

Then comes the poon. Undecided...part of me wants to "play the field".
And part of me wants to bed down with one good one.

Leaning towards #1, you only live once, Wtf!!
 

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Bang as many 30 year olds as possible.

I am almost 40. I was with one woman from the age of 19 (married at 21) through 37, that means 18 years and pretty much all of my adult life with one woman. If it weren't for my kids, the relationship would have ended before I turned 30.

The divorce was nasty. Watching her destroy all of my dreams for my children was even worse. I can't picture myself in that situation ever again.

Now...the end of the summer will mark a year since the legal divorce. I have been living like a monk for nearly two years, partially because I couldn't afford much, moreso because my ego and self-esteem were totally shattered and I just couldn't convince myself to try to meet women. I have been exercising and studying and both have yielded positive results.

I want to build a nice harem. I don't want to be bothered with someone else's kids. I don't want to sleep over and build a pillow fort. I want my own house and space. I want to be able to choose from several good looking women on any given night to have some fun.
 
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