"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Goals regarding women

Rainman4707

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What are your goals regarding women?

My goal was is to find a girl who I want for a LTR & ultimately create a family. I want kids.

I'm interested to find out what the guys goals are on this forum considering I've spent a lot of time interacting with them.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Scaramouche

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Dear Rainman,
Can you see the value of putting your age down?...Old Will spoke of the Seven ages of Man,yours is the age when every intelligent Man as a duty to his race and forbears should reproduce...Howls of anguish from the Mice LOL!
 

Scaramouche

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Dear Tictac,
When it comes to pithy brevity and the ability to cut to the quick,you take the cake...your last contribution says soo little but then again soo much...I would not like to haggle Business with you...Good Luck!
 

hockeyfreak79

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Right now I don't have any regarding woman. I'm not actively pursuring any. I haven't taken a extended break in a very long time, it's time to reboot & do that. Maybe come summer time.

I'm @ crossroads & working on myself right now. Possible find a new company to work for and get to that next level.

My only debt is 2k on my car, looking forward to paying that off & get some maintenance done. I can easily put another 100k miles on it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ubercat

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Yeah - I'm on sabattical too. Just got out of 10 years of LTRs including 2 live-ins so I figure I've at least earned a year off for bad behavour. So far is good - lost 10 kg and still slightly social. Fixing up old house, paying down mortgage - should be read to buy an investment property this year if job hangs together. Approach and dating is fun - but sucks time. Still doing a bit of PUA study and fake cold approaches to keep my hand in. Not MGTOW yet ;-) Probably do sum OLD to keep the pipes clean once the bod and $ goals reached. I tell people 'I'm happily single' and I am.
 

ubercat

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Arrgh I mean DJ not PUA. I'm definitely more Cary Grant than Vin Diesel
 

ubercat

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Weird 1st post previewed but didn't. Anyway long story short I'm on sabbatical too after 10 years of LTRs. Losing weight, playing sports, fixing old house and stashing cash. Probably some OLD later on to ease back in once I've reached a couple of goals.
 

Roni_88

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I want to get to the point of dominating myself and put my stuff first before any woman.. I've progressed tons but there's always more room for improvement.

Deep inside even those that say that they despise women want a good woman ( I know, a lot of variables to this meaning) I am no exception to wanting one as well.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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To never EVER have one believe or say that I am in touch with my "feminine side.' The only feminine side that I'm touching is hers.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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glass half full

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Taking a break right now. Getting health issues under control, then going to get back into shape and get job secure.

Then comes the poon. Undecided...part of me wants to "play the field".
And part of me wants to bed down with one good one.

Leaning towards #1, you only live once, Wtf!!
 

Rogue One

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Bang as many 30 year olds as possible.

I am almost 40. I was with one woman from the age of 19 (married at 21) through 37, that means 18 years and pretty much all of my adult life with one woman. If it weren't for my kids, the relationship would have ended before I turned 30.

The divorce was nasty. Watching her destroy all of my dreams for my children was even worse. I can't picture myself in that situation ever again.

Now...the end of the summer will mark a year since the legal divorce. I have been living like a monk for nearly two years, partially because I couldn't afford much, moreso because my ego and self-esteem were totally shattered and I just couldn't convince myself to try to meet women. I have been exercising and studying and both have yielded positive results.

I want to build a nice harem. I don't want to be bothered with someone else's kids. I don't want to sleep over and build a pillow fort. I want my own house and space. I want to be able to choose from several good looking women on any given night to have some fun.
 
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