You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's not about motivation. Motivation comes and goes. It's about consistency. At some point you have to realize that in order to be good at anything, you just have to be consistently doing it, whether you like it or not. No men in the army likes the drill, but the military system keeps on pushing.evan12 said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Agreed. I hate it and love it. Sometimes I'll work for 10 or 11 hours and feel beat when I get off. I won't want to go to the gym at all, but I force myself to go. I don't want to mess up my workout schedule. Joining the gym was the best thing I have ever did for myself. I'm no longer a skinny twig, women actually check me out, I have great strength, I'm healthier, I'm eating better, I feel good about myself, and more.sharkbeat said:
Yes! Lifting boosts testosterone levels a lot!Fatal Jay said:
Tons of guys and girls here are fat OR they littered their body with tattoos, seems like everybody now is sporting gang signs and other low brow tribal sh1t. What's up with that??? Clean cut and shredded is infinitely more attractive than honey boo boo and friends.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5cnyRkZTtoMubercat said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
