You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's not about motivation. Motivation comes and goes. It's about consistency. At some point you have to realize that in order to be good at anything, you just have to be consistently doing it, whether you like it or not. No men in the army likes the drill, but the military system keeps on pushing.evan12 said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Agreed. I hate it and love it. Sometimes I'll work for 10 or 11 hours and feel beat when I get off. I won't want to go to the gym at all, but I force myself to go. I don't want to mess up my workout schedule. Joining the gym was the best thing I have ever did for myself. I'm no longer a skinny twig, women actually check me out, I have great strength, I'm healthier, I'm eating better, I feel good about myself, and more.sharkbeat said:
Yes! Lifting boosts testosterone levels a lot!Fatal Jay said:
Tons of guys and girls here are fat OR they littered their body with tattoos, seems like everybody now is sporting gang signs and other low brow tribal sh1t. What's up with that??? Clean cut and shredded is infinitely more attractive than honey boo boo and friends.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5cnyRkZTtoMubercat said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
