"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well, i just finished reading the book Siddhartha in my senior year English class and, even though i didnt particularly like the book, it has much to do with DJ'ism and Sosuave.

For anyone who hasnt read it, its about a young, rich, handsome boy who, despite all of his advantages in life, is hungry for enlightenment. He gives up everything he has in his quest for it and eventually attains it.

These are some themes of Siddartha from Sparknotes.com, and two from my class discussion
  • The Search for Spiritual Enlightenment
  • Inner vs. Exterior Guidance
  • Live in the Present
  • Live on Your Own Path

These sound familiar huh?

There are many more DJ'isms throughout the book too.

I highly recommend reading this book because it can seriously change the way you think about life. Do it!:up:

Edit: Thread idea was made from reading Embraces Enlightenment post, thanks!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yes, there definitely is a lot in common between buddhism and djism.
 
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I read that book in one sitting when I picked it up years ago. It was amazing, I couldn't put it down. It was about 8 or 9 hours straight. But yeah, I never put that correlation together, but it is very similar to being a DJ. Don't worry about yourself, don't ask too many questions, just have fun, be true to yourself and the rest follows.
 
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Yeah, I suppose you're onto something there. Of course, in Buddhism, to be onto something is to be nowhere at all.

I suppose I always looked at Buddhism as about letting go of everything - including women and the urges to be with them. Not that that stops them from wanting to be with us.
 
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Prof said:
Yeah, I suppose you're onto something there. Of course, in Buddhism, to be onto something is to be nowhere at all.

I suppose I always looked at Buddhism as about letting go of everything - including women and the urges to be with them. Not that that stops them from wanting to be with us.
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Thats true, in the book when Siddartha pursues a women, he becomes weak and loses his motivation (AFC)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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