"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Go read Siddhartha!

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Well, i just finished reading the book Siddhartha in my senior year English class and, even though i didnt particularly like the book, it has much to do with DJ'ism and Sosuave.

For anyone who hasnt read it, its about a young, rich, handsome boy who, despite all of his advantages in life, is hungry for enlightenment. He gives up everything he has in his quest for it and eventually attains it.

These are some themes of Siddartha from Sparknotes.com, and two from my class discussion
  • The Search for Spiritual Enlightenment
  • Inner vs. Exterior Guidance
  • Live in the Present
  • Live on Your Own Path

These sound familiar huh?

There are many more DJ'isms throughout the book too.

I highly recommend reading this book because it can seriously change the way you think about life. Do it!:up:

Edit: Thread idea was made from reading Embraces Enlightenment post, thanks!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yes, there definitely is a lot in common between buddhism and djism.
 
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I read that book in one sitting when I picked it up years ago. It was amazing, I couldn't put it down. It was about 8 or 9 hours straight. But yeah, I never put that correlation together, but it is very similar to being a DJ. Don't worry about yourself, don't ask too many questions, just have fun, be true to yourself and the rest follows.
 
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Yeah, I suppose you're onto something there. Of course, in Buddhism, to be onto something is to be nowhere at all.

I suppose I always looked at Buddhism as about letting go of everything - including women and the urges to be with them. Not that that stops them from wanting to be with us.
 
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Prof said:
Yeah, I suppose you're onto something there. Of course, in Buddhism, to be onto something is to be nowhere at all.

I suppose I always looked at Buddhism as about letting go of everything - including women and the urges to be with them. Not that that stops them from wanting to be with us.
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Thats true, in the book when Siddartha pursues a women, he becomes weak and loses his motivation (AFC)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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