"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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intraining

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When im pursuing a girl and i kno theres another guy doing the same but much better looking i get discouraged.Its ****ing everything up and i have no idea on how to block it out of my head.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tails

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beat him up.
 

HateOnMe

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After that, try clubbing her over the head and drag her to your cave. But seriously Im new to the board but I know enuff, that when you doubt your game, your just gonna crash and burn. So I suggest you either amp up your game or just next her or sumthin.
 

WaterTiger

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Originally posted by Tails
beat him up. [/QUOTE

Not a bad idea...no one looks good with a bloody nose and a missing tooth.;)
 

Austin Allegro

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So when you apply for a job, do you just give up because there are other guys applying for it?

Hell, next time you're driving to the shops, you might as well just pull over and give up - after all think of all the other guys trying to get to the same parking space as you!

OK I'm being funny but the bottom line is don't worry about other people! Just do what you do best.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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RedKnight04

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Don't worry about competition b/c you'll probably just end up screwing it up by doing something stupid.

Just think that you know what your doing and could do this and the competition will end up screwing it up for themselves anyways.
 

biker_gixxer

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Originally posted by intraining
When im pursuing a girl and i kno theres another guy doing the same but much better looking i get discouraged.Its ****ing everything up and i have no idea on how to block it out of my head.
You have to remember that women don't care about looks (not as much as guys anyway), it's how you can make them 'feel' that matters. If you can get her to feel attracted to you, the rest is cake.
 

NewMan

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It's a lack of self confidence and it will fvck up your whole game...


Just remember it's the whole package that she's after. Looks alone do not maketh the man.

There's a few golden words to remember:


"Girls just wanna have fun"

Live by it.
 

FlyGuy

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Lets get this straight - YOU are the one disqualifying yourself by making a bigger deal out of looks than it really is. Women definitely care about looks but they aren't as visually turned on as men are. Its more about the value you project. Sure, being good looking projects one kind of value but there are many others. Sense of humor, attitude and confidence, image, power/fame, and yes in the end how you make her feel will be a huge value (for the cynics out there, your car and wallet are other types of value but you don't want to be the provider).

Some suggestions for you:

Start working out with the goal of increasing strength and size. You will be far less intimidated by other guys if you feel and look like a badass, in fact YOU could end up intimidating them! This is NOT easy and not a "quick" solution (unless you have really good genetics and gain muscle easily) but it is SO worth it for other reasons besides women. Increase your confidence, look better, project more value...

Other than that maybe you should pic a different environment for working on your skills so that you are one on one with a chick, until you become more comfortable with the game and have more confidence.
 

squirrels

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The other guy is HER concern, not YOURS. Your interaction with her is strictly between you and her. If she tries to bring the other guy into play or chooses to interact with HIM instead of YOU, then it's her loss.

That being said, at least being in shape and properly dressed/hygienic is a must. :)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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