"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Giving up......

intraining

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When im pursuing a girl and i kno theres another guy doing the same but much better looking i get discouraged.Its ****ing everything up and i have no idea on how to block it out of my head.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tails

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beat him up.
 

HateOnMe

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After that, try clubbing her over the head and drag her to your cave. But seriously Im new to the board but I know enuff, that when you doubt your game, your just gonna crash and burn. So I suggest you either amp up your game or just next her or sumthin.
 

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Originally posted by Tails
beat him up. [/QUOTE

Not a bad idea...no one looks good with a bloody nose and a missing tooth.;)
 

Austin Allegro

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So when you apply for a job, do you just give up because there are other guys applying for it?

Hell, next time you're driving to the shops, you might as well just pull over and give up - after all think of all the other guys trying to get to the same parking space as you!

OK I'm being funny but the bottom line is don't worry about other people! Just do what you do best.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RedKnight04

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Don't worry about competition b/c you'll probably just end up screwing it up by doing something stupid.

Just think that you know what your doing and could do this and the competition will end up screwing it up for themselves anyways.
 

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Originally posted by intraining
When im pursuing a girl and i kno theres another guy doing the same but much better looking i get discouraged.Its ****ing everything up and i have no idea on how to block it out of my head.
You have to remember that women don't care about looks (not as much as guys anyway), it's how you can make them 'feel' that matters. If you can get her to feel attracted to you, the rest is cake.
 

NewMan

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It's a lack of self confidence and it will fvck up your whole game...


Just remember it's the whole package that she's after. Looks alone do not maketh the man.

There's a few golden words to remember:


"Girls just wanna have fun"

Live by it.
 

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Lets get this straight - YOU are the one disqualifying yourself by making a bigger deal out of looks than it really is. Women definitely care about looks but they aren't as visually turned on as men are. Its more about the value you project. Sure, being good looking projects one kind of value but there are many others. Sense of humor, attitude and confidence, image, power/fame, and yes in the end how you make her feel will be a huge value (for the cynics out there, your car and wallet are other types of value but you don't want to be the provider).

Some suggestions for you:

Start working out with the goal of increasing strength and size. You will be far less intimidated by other guys if you feel and look like a badass, in fact YOU could end up intimidating them! This is NOT easy and not a "quick" solution (unless you have really good genetics and gain muscle easily) but it is SO worth it for other reasons besides women. Increase your confidence, look better, project more value...

Other than that maybe you should pic a different environment for working on your skills so that you are one on one with a chick, until you become more comfortable with the game and have more confidence.
 

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The other guy is HER concern, not YOURS. Your interaction with her is strictly between you and her. If she tries to bring the other guy into play or chooses to interact with HIM instead of YOU, then it's her loss.

That being said, at least being in shape and properly dressed/hygienic is a must. :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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