lets say you say something thats constructive criticism to your significant other, they know what you are saying and know that its true but get hurt start crying cause it brought them to reality. We sort of talked it out but shes probably still upset or pissed or whatever you want to call it. Would going to their work place and giving them flowers the next day be a good thing or an AFC move. I feel kind of bad right now and I dont know what to do.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
giving them flowers for f*cking up
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Why?? You told her something that was true? Was it something that maybe kinda bothers you about her? Then you shouldn't be apologizing and bringing flowers says: SORRY, I was wrong.
Since you haven't mentioned the kind of criticism, I can't judge, but personally, I would try and make her see that even though what you said may have been a little harsh, there's ways for her to change it, or work on it or whatever. (since she's already admitted you were right)
Since you haven't mentioned the kind of criticism, I can't judge, but personally, I would try and make her see that even though what you said may have been a little harsh, there's ways for her to change it, or work on it or whatever. (since she's already admitted you were right)
IMO, major AFC move. So she got a little upset, doesn't mean you have to bring flowers to her work, man! The only time I ever got a girl flowers was after I cheated on this one girl many years ago. Somehow, the flowers worked lol.
Let me just make something clear.
There is nothing wrong with giving a woman flowers. It is an act of a gentleman.
BUT!
Don't do it unless she deserves it. If she doesn't show appreciation for you or high interest then DON't DO IT.
If you gave her constuctive criticism then let things be. Don't worry about it. Forget that conversation and focus on other aspects of your relationship.
If you give her flowers make sure it is for something she does well.
In other words, if she cooks for you then you can show apprecation by giving her some flowers.
remember It is a two way street. not a one way guilt trip for you.
There is nothing wrong with giving a woman flowers. It is an act of a gentleman.
BUT!
Don't do it unless she deserves it. If she doesn't show appreciation for you or high interest then DON't DO IT.
If you gave her constuctive criticism then let things be. Don't worry about it. Forget that conversation and focus on other aspects of your relationship.
If you give her flowers make sure it is for something she does well.
In other words, if she cooks for you then you can show apprecation by giving her some flowers.
remember It is a two way street. not a one way guilt trip for you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
"Giving a woman gifts to keep the peace is like giving your dog a treat for sh!tting on the carpet."
Okay so don't bring her flowers. Work with her. Everytime she says something bad about herself, tell her she is 'doing it again' and have her think of something about herself that is good or positive. You will help her build her selfesteem which is much more valuable then flowers.
Save the flowers or 'rewards' for other occasions like some of the other guys mentioned.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Bravo!
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Dude, it would make me want to :kick: you. That's how AFC it is. Flowers are not for peacemaking.