lets say you say something thats constructive criticism to your significant other, they know what you are saying and know that its true but get hurt start crying cause it brought them to reality. We sort of talked it out but shes probably still upset or pissed or whatever you want to call it. Would going to their work place and giving them flowers the next day be a good thing or an AFC move. I feel kind of bad right now and I dont know what to do.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
giving them flowers for f*cking up
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Why?? You told her something that was true? Was it something that maybe kinda bothers you about her? Then you shouldn't be apologizing and bringing flowers says: SORRY, I was wrong.
Since you haven't mentioned the kind of criticism, I can't judge, but personally, I would try and make her see that even though what you said may have been a little harsh, there's ways for her to change it, or work on it or whatever. (since she's already admitted you were right)
Since you haven't mentioned the kind of criticism, I can't judge, but personally, I would try and make her see that even though what you said may have been a little harsh, there's ways for her to change it, or work on it or whatever. (since she's already admitted you were right)
IMO, major AFC move. So she got a little upset, doesn't mean you have to bring flowers to her work, man! The only time I ever got a girl flowers was after I cheated on this one girl many years ago. Somehow, the flowers worked lol.
Let me just make something clear.
There is nothing wrong with giving a woman flowers. It is an act of a gentleman.
BUT!
Don't do it unless she deserves it. If she doesn't show appreciation for you or high interest then DON't DO IT.
If you gave her constuctive criticism then let things be. Don't worry about it. Forget that conversation and focus on other aspects of your relationship.
If you give her flowers make sure it is for something she does well.
In other words, if she cooks for you then you can show apprecation by giving her some flowers.
remember It is a two way street. not a one way guilt trip for you.
There is nothing wrong with giving a woman flowers. It is an act of a gentleman.
BUT!
Don't do it unless she deserves it. If she doesn't show appreciation for you or high interest then DON't DO IT.
If you gave her constuctive criticism then let things be. Don't worry about it. Forget that conversation and focus on other aspects of your relationship.
If you give her flowers make sure it is for something she does well.
In other words, if she cooks for you then you can show apprecation by giving her some flowers.
remember It is a two way street. not a one way guilt trip for you.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
"Giving a woman gifts to keep the peace is like giving your dog a treat for sh!tting on the carpet."
Okay so don't bring her flowers. Work with her. Everytime she says something bad about herself, tell her she is 'doing it again' and have her think of something about herself that is good or positive. You will help her build her selfesteem which is much more valuable then flowers.
Save the flowers or 'rewards' for other occasions like some of the other guys mentioned.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Bravo!
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
Dude, it would make me want to :kick: you. That's how AFC it is. Flowers are not for peacemaking.