"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Giving Her Permission

Giovanni Casanova

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I have a Humanities/Cultures class on Tuesday nights.

There is an unbelievably gorgeous girl in this class, she chose to sit next to me our first day of class. Then our bast*rd teacher decided we should do some group project, and of course, we got separated. We can choose where we want to sit. Each class I always sit in the same spot. There's another (much less attractive) girl in class who for some reason always sits next to me (since I sit on the far right, this is the only seat next to me).

I started noticing a seating pattern a week or so ago. The gorgeous girl always sits in a position that is semi-adjacent to my seat. One week she's directly behind me. The next week she's diagonal from me. Last week she was directly in front of me. Always just one seat away. And guys are always macking on her, with zero success.

Tonight she gets to class before the other girl and sits next to me. She starts talking to me, and I am my usual charming self. She seems interested, but not "SUPER" interested. The class starts and she gets her book out and starts highlighting sections and taking notes out of the book while the professor is going over trivial crap. She makes a big fuss about her notes being perfect, lined up in perfect columns. She folds her paper to make sure that her columns are straight.

Finally, I can't take anymore. I look directly into her eyes and say, "YOU ARE SO ANAL-RETENTIVE." She laughs and starts to protest, but I stop her. "You don't have to apologize about it, I'm just stating a fact."

The result: her interest shoots through the roof. She puts her notes away, talks with me through class, joking around and laughing at every one of my dumb jokes. At the end of class, she reaches out, touches my arm, and says, "Have a good week of making people's days better."

I'm really confused, so I say, "In what way do I do that?"

She says, "Nobody has ever given me permission to stop worrying about my 'responsibilities' and have fun before."

So, what I'd like to know is, do you guys think I have a chance with this girl?

Calm down, I'm just kidding. Got the digits, baby!



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CASANOVA

"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer

"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire

"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Galactus

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Killer! Excellent! Way ta go!

That was awesome. You really played that great. Totally inspiring.

You made her feel like she could let herself relax, when the rest of the world dumps everything on her. Very cool.

Another gem from Giovanni.
 

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giovanni, just curious? what do you consider yourself looks wise? if shes a 8 or 9 what are you? let us know...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by Jake Steed:
You fvcking pimp. Success is in the air.
Yea. You pimp.

Moved to Success Stories.



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i'd rather die than give you control
 

Giovanni Casanova

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Originally posted by JUST ME:
giovanni, just curious? what do you consider yourself looks wise? if shes a 8 or 9 what are you? let us know...
Average at best. Maybe a 6.5 or 7.

She's probably about an 8.5 or a 9.



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"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer

"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire

"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don the Legend

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Great neg hit Casa!

I'll have to remember it so I can use it when the opportunity presents itself. Way to go.

Let us how it goes.

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