"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Giving Her Permission

Giovanni Casanova

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I have a Humanities/Cultures class on Tuesday nights.

There is an unbelievably gorgeous girl in this class, she chose to sit next to me our first day of class. Then our bast*rd teacher decided we should do some group project, and of course, we got separated. We can choose where we want to sit. Each class I always sit in the same spot. There's another (much less attractive) girl in class who for some reason always sits next to me (since I sit on the far right, this is the only seat next to me).

I started noticing a seating pattern a week or so ago. The gorgeous girl always sits in a position that is semi-adjacent to my seat. One week she's directly behind me. The next week she's diagonal from me. Last week she was directly in front of me. Always just one seat away. And guys are always macking on her, with zero success.

Tonight she gets to class before the other girl and sits next to me. She starts talking to me, and I am my usual charming self. She seems interested, but not "SUPER" interested. The class starts and she gets her book out and starts highlighting sections and taking notes out of the book while the professor is going over trivial crap. She makes a big fuss about her notes being perfect, lined up in perfect columns. She folds her paper to make sure that her columns are straight.

Finally, I can't take anymore. I look directly into her eyes and say, "YOU ARE SO ANAL-RETENTIVE." She laughs and starts to protest, but I stop her. "You don't have to apologize about it, I'm just stating a fact."

The result: her interest shoots through the roof. She puts her notes away, talks with me through class, joking around and laughing at every one of my dumb jokes. At the end of class, she reaches out, touches my arm, and says, "Have a good week of making people's days better."

I'm really confused, so I say, "In what way do I do that?"

She says, "Nobody has ever given me permission to stop worrying about my 'responsibilities' and have fun before."

So, what I'd like to know is, do you guys think I have a chance with this girl?

Calm down, I'm just kidding. Got the digits, baby!



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CASANOVA

"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer

"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire

"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Galactus

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Killer! Excellent! Way ta go!

That was awesome. You really played that great. Totally inspiring.

You made her feel like she could let herself relax, when the rest of the world dumps everything on her. Very cool.

Another gem from Giovanni.
 

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giovanni, just curious? what do you consider yourself looks wise? if shes a 8 or 9 what are you? let us know...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Jake Steed:
You fvcking pimp. Success is in the air.
Yea. You pimp.

Moved to Success Stories.



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i'd rather die than give you control
 

Giovanni Casanova

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Originally posted by JUST ME:
giovanni, just curious? what do you consider yourself looks wise? if shes a 8 or 9 what are you? let us know...
Average at best. Maybe a 6.5 or 7.

She's probably about an 8.5 or a 9.



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CASANOVA

"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer

"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire

"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Don the Legend

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Great neg hit Casa!

I'll have to remember it so I can use it when the opportunity presents itself. Way to go.

Let us how it goes.

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