"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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giving her another chance

ghostrider943

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I do have other options but I believe I was being unfair to her and I want to give her another chance. Her body language tells me she wants another chance. We havent dated and I made the mistake of forgetting to qualify her. Still I got her email but I got logical resistance. This isnt a pattern that I follow, she knows I will walk. How's this:

I'm giving you another chance since you're friendly in real life and you're very intelligent. Im willing to cancel my plans Saturday just to talk to you in private to get to know you better. If you cant make it, we can talk Sunday, just let me know. Otherwise I cant see you this week. If all goes well, you can tag along with me Saturday.

Comments & criticisms appreciated. Does this at least qualify her?

PS Im not giving up on her, I am going to send her a message. If she doesnt show up then I will give up
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Need more info. On what happend before this!
 

Axcell

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Sounds a bit too "canned" and formal/planned out; particularly the beginning part. Go with this:

Hey, you seemed like an interesting person so I'm willing to make some time in my schedule to spend some more time with you and possibly get to know you a bit better. If you can't make it, let me know as soon as you can so I can make some other plans.

In my post, you are qualifying her because you are giving her ONE option to chill with you and letting her know your time is valuable by stating that if she doesn't make plans with you, you will make plans with somebody else.

In your post, you are mentioning to her that you are "canceling" plans JUST to spend some time with her. A bit needy in my view. Your plans are important, and you have more priorities than this girl. Let her know you are busy, and you will make time for her WHEN YOU ARE FREE.

As for your question of whether it qualifies her, yes and no. At the beginning, it did seem like it was qualifying her. You have the attitude of "I'm making some time out of my schedule for you. If you can come, come. If you can't, too bad." HOWEVER, than I read your next sentence: "If you cant make it, we can talk Sunday." Why would you put that there!? Don't give her a second option, thats negating the "qualifying" attitude you originally had, and making you seem desperate to spend time with her. In short, go with something I had above - it will work.

Hope I helped, it was a tad bit difficult to give some advice based on the vague information provided to me.
Axcell.
 
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