"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I do have other options but I believe I was being unfair to her and I want to give her another chance. Her body language tells me she wants another chance. We havent dated and I made the mistake of forgetting to qualify her. Still I got her email but I got logical resistance. This isnt a pattern that I follow, she knows I will walk. How's this:

I'm giving you another chance since you're friendly in real life and you're very intelligent. Im willing to cancel my plans Saturday just to talk to you in private to get to know you better. If you cant make it, we can talk Sunday, just let me know. Otherwise I cant see you this week. If all goes well, you can tag along with me Saturday.

Comments & criticisms appreciated. Does this at least qualify her?

PS Im not giving up on her, I am going to send her a message. If she doesnt show up then I will give up
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Need more info. On what happend before this!
 
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Sounds a bit too "canned" and formal/planned out; particularly the beginning part. Go with this:

Hey, you seemed like an interesting person so I'm willing to make some time in my schedule to spend some more time with you and possibly get to know you a bit better. If you can't make it, let me know as soon as you can so I can make some other plans.

In my post, you are qualifying her because you are giving her ONE option to chill with you and letting her know your time is valuable by stating that if she doesn't make plans with you, you will make plans with somebody else.

In your post, you are mentioning to her that you are "canceling" plans JUST to spend some time with her. A bit needy in my view. Your plans are important, and you have more priorities than this girl. Let her know you are busy, and you will make time for her WHEN YOU ARE FREE.

As for your question of whether it qualifies her, yes and no. At the beginning, it did seem like it was qualifying her. You have the attitude of "I'm making some time out of my schedule for you. If you can come, come. If you can't, too bad." HOWEVER, than I read your next sentence: "If you cant make it, we can talk Sunday." Why would you put that there!? Don't give her a second option, thats negating the "qualifying" attitude you originally had, and making you seem desperate to spend time with her. In short, go with something I had above - it will work.

Hope I helped, it was a tad bit difficult to give some advice based on the vague information provided to me.
Axcell.
 
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