"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Giving feedback to coworkers...

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Basically I'm in middle management (I'm a team leader, supervising around 100 people). I regularly have review sessions with them, giving them feedback on how they can improve their work, give them some encouragement etc.

Until now, I've just pulled sh!t out my arse with no real idea on how to give structured constructive feedback. What I know, I've learned by watching others do it, and trying it for my own. Don't get me wrong, I know how to do it, but I'm just looking for some more "scientific" ways of doing it.

Any tips from more experienced posters regarding this would be much appreciated. Does any of you guys have any links/ebooks that cover this subject?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is my opinion but



I like to say that whatever you see, hear, and know about the people you manage whether it be problems with performance, late to work, bad customer service, poor teamwork..

You take full responsibility as if you were the one who was worried about getting fired because of not performing, or lives 80 km away in heavy traffic trying to get to work in time, or just have a short temper in dealing with irate customers. I believe its you who has to look in yourself, and change yourself to correct any problems that maybe in your employees. I believe you have to ask God to forgive you and each and everyone of your employees one by one to forgive you for causing all the problems and issues in their lives and in their company, and how you can make things right.

Go ahead ask them what is on there mind, if they fear to be fired or let go, or issues with other employees, or not being paid enough, make things right. I would do this continuously weekly or monthly, cause there are always problems that rise up.


In a matter of weeks or month, I believe you'll see vast improvement and change. Start right now, you probably know half the problems of your employees.
 
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A great site to post this on especially if you are an engineer is
www.eng-tips.com

They have a number of good suggestions on career issues. I like that forum alot.
 
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