"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Giving feedback to coworkers...

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Basically I'm in middle management (I'm a team leader, supervising around 100 people). I regularly have review sessions with them, giving them feedback on how they can improve their work, give them some encouragement etc.

Until now, I've just pulled sh!t out my arse with no real idea on how to give structured constructive feedback. What I know, I've learned by watching others do it, and trying it for my own. Don't get me wrong, I know how to do it, but I'm just looking for some more "scientific" ways of doing it.

Any tips from more experienced posters regarding this would be much appreciated. Does any of you guys have any links/ebooks that cover this subject?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is my opinion but



I like to say that whatever you see, hear, and know about the people you manage whether it be problems with performance, late to work, bad customer service, poor teamwork..

You take full responsibility as if you were the one who was worried about getting fired because of not performing, or lives 80 km away in heavy traffic trying to get to work in time, or just have a short temper in dealing with irate customers. I believe its you who has to look in yourself, and change yourself to correct any problems that maybe in your employees. I believe you have to ask God to forgive you and each and everyone of your employees one by one to forgive you for causing all the problems and issues in their lives and in their company, and how you can make things right.

Go ahead ask them what is on there mind, if they fear to be fired or let go, or issues with other employees, or not being paid enough, make things right. I would do this continuously weekly or monthly, cause there are always problems that rise up.


In a matter of weeks or month, I believe you'll see vast improvement and change. Start right now, you probably know half the problems of your employees.
 
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A great site to post this on especially if you are an engineer is
www.eng-tips.com

They have a number of good suggestions on career issues. I like that forum alot.
 
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