"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Giving a Beautiful Woman a Compliment

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If I tell a beautiful lady that she has a pretty blouse and I am trying to show sexual attraction is that compliment OK or did it not go far enough?

I can't believe I am asking this question but find myself in a rut.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Powerlifter said:
If I tell a beautiful lady that she has a pretty blouse and I am trying to show sexual attraction is that compliment OK or did it not go far enough?

Tough one............ :confused:

I'm sure the blouse will be flattered by your compliment but the girl might get a little upset. She might think that wanting to show sexual attraction to a blouse is a little weird. :crazy:

Then again, it might work.

Cheers!
 

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I think it's okay to say a girl is pretty if she's a 7 or below. Above that, if you want to give a compliment, say something specific like, "I like your style" or "I like your hair", but not "you are so beautiful" or anything like that. A girl that's beautiful and knows it will respect you less if you tell her that. That's my rule on this. I think if you've been seeing her awhile and you've slept with her, then you can loosen up and give more direct compliments. But until you bang a girl, use compliments sparingly and make her seek your approval.
 

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I guess my point in giving the compliment about her blouse was my way hoping she would find I did like her style but in a round about way.

Guess I should be more direct I guess.

Thanks
 

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It's always better to compliment somebody on something specific that is within their control, and that you actually appreciate, regardless if it's a man, woman, hot chick, whatever.

Saying "I like that blouse" isn't really about her, you could be talking about the blouse designer. But saying it looks good on her would be better, or saying how well it matches her shoes or whatever.

Try this one: "you have really nice posture. You carry yourself with a lot of self confidence."

or "I like that blouse. it brings out your skin color very nicely."

don't worry about her realizing you find her sexually attractive. Sometimes it's better to make her wonder, rather than trying to convince her. The goal is to keep her idea of "you" in her mind as long as possible, and as separate as possible from all the other clowns out there.

As soon as she feels any overt sexual desire from you, she'll stick you in that category in her mind with all the other guys that want to fukk her.

If you see her once every couple of days, a few honest, non sexual hit and run compliments can work wonders. Don't stick around waiting for her to say "thanks" or reciprocate.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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taiyuu_otoko said:
It's always better to compliment somebody on something specific that is within their control, and that you actually appreciate, regardless if it's a man, woman, hot chick, whatever.

Saying "I like that blouse" isn't really about her, you could be talking about the blouse designer. But saying it looks good on her would be better, or saying how well it matches her shoes or whatever.

Try this one: "you have really nice posture. You carry yourself with a lot of self confidence."

or "I like that blouse. it brings out your skin color very nicely."

don't worry about her realizing you find her sexually attractive. Sometimes it's better to make her wonder, rather than trying to convince her. The goal is to keep her idea of "you" in her mind as long as possible, and as separate as possible from all the other clowns out there.

As soon as she feels any overt sexual desire from you, she'll stick you in that category in her mind with all the other guys that want to fukk her.

If you see her once every couple of days, a few honest, non sexual hit and run compliments can work wonders. Don't stick around waiting for her to say "thanks" or reciprocate.
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Dam this was what I was looking for not to take away from any others advice. How excellent advice you have thank you so much.

I just hope I have not been put the friends zone for I want to screw her brains out dam she is so sexy.....
 
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