"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Give users authority to delete their own threads...

squirrels

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The problem is, things like what Red XL did will happen... users might write tons of great tips (which become the property of ss.com, read the disclaimer), then they get a grudge and go delete it all (I don't know if that's why red did it, but he did delete them all).
 

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The thing with RedXL was that he had all his stuff on the old board, and deleted it before there was anything stopping him from doing so. One of the big plusses to this board is the time limit on making changes to your posts (to include deleting them). I think this is doable now, but it wasn't possible with the ol' tan-and-blue-ish board. :p
 
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