"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Give users authority to delete their own threads...

squirrels

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The problem is, things like what Red XL did will happen... users might write tons of great tips (which become the property of ss.com, read the disclaimer), then they get a grudge and go delete it all (I don't know if that's why red did it, but he did delete them all).
 

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The thing with RedXL was that he had all his stuff on the old board, and deleted it before there was anything stopping him from doing so. One of the big plusses to this board is the time limit on making changes to your posts (to include deleting them). I think this is doable now, but it wasn't possible with the ol' tan-and-blue-ish board. :p
 
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