"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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give me inspiration and passion

dude04

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i don't enjoy what i am doing these days. everyday is a routine: wake up, work, home, sleep. i don't have many friends but that don't bother me anymore. i do go out on ocassions to bars or the park alone but it don't excite me. there is no excitement in my life. recently, the only thing i enjoy is watching movies (i don't think). i want to find a challenge. i want to interact with cool fun people. i want passion in my life.

in conclusion, i can't find my passions. i have been waiting for the day where i really hit bottom and an epiphany will come. that day is not happening and i am tired of waiting. i want to discover it today so i can live a good life.

someone give me tips. someone give me inspirations. someone save my life.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Find something you like to do in your spare time. Besides tv and computer. Read a book, learn to play an instrument, see your friends, lift weights..
 

Rhoto

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No one can give it to you. You need to find it within yourself.

Meditate on the question - What do I love? What do I want? I want to know what I want. I want to find my life's passion.

Trust me you'll find it.

This is not a quick, straight forward process. Nothing worth having is.
 

Furyguy

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Save some money for a little while, then quit your job, pick up shop and move to a new city/state/country. Find a job doing something completely random that will let you meet new people. Bartend, bus tables, sell cars, drive a taxi, give f*cking bicycle tours... stop worrying about money, live day to day and have fun while you still can. You might find something that you'll love until you die.

It's a fresh beginning and a chance for new experiences. If you really are at rock bottom then you have nothing to lose by trying it.
 

suavesuave

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i pretty much have the same routine...so so****ed up
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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