"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Give me ideas for an "exciting" first date

bootlegger

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I just got some advice on here, that my first date needed to be something exciting.

I don't live in a small town by any means. But I don't live in a NYC caliber town.

What are some ideas for something to do?

I think we'll need to leave alcohol out the picture. I think this girl is just 20.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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bootlegger

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What would you do at the mall? I thought the mall was for shopping/kids?
 

TurboLover

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Do something physical like ice skating. KINO is king on this one.

Then feed her, and when I say feed her I mean stuff her. And when I say stuff her I mean have sex with her. And when I say have sex with her I mean the thing between her legs. And when I say the thing between her legs..... ah you get the point.

:cool:
 

h a r d a s s

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carnival amusement park waterpark bowling miniture golf comedy club base jumping...
You gotta be really good at sumthin, if u can go to a place that displays ur greatness. Now goin to a gym doesnt sound like much fun, rite. but im really good at bball and i know my way around a gym. if i act like im busy and im not askin for a "date" im just goin to the gym and she can come along, i can have fun rippin her about how she plays ball, and just mess around w her the whole time, n they love it. and if after we've hit it off pretty well i decide to play a pick-up game against other ppl, she'll just sit and admire and afterwards she'll like me a lot more. In short, ur best bet is to have a date that is centered around a) wutever ur good at and will make u look good or b) whatever type things you've learned she's interested in. I like the first date to make me look good and the second to open her up by having it be about what shes interested in.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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bootlegger

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I guess I need to learn to ice skate eh?

Is doing something physical a bad idea? (I've always thought indoor rock climbing would be fun for a first date)
 

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Originally posted by h a r d a s s
carnival amusement park waterpark bowling miniture golf comedy club base jumping...
You gotta be really good at sumthin, if u can go to a place that displays ur greatness. Now goin to a gym doesnt sound like much fun, rite. but im really good at bball and i know my way around a gym. if i act like im busy and im not askin for a "date" im just goin to the gym and she can come along, i can have fun rippin her about how she plays ball, and just mess around w her the whole time, n they love it. and if after we've hit it off pretty well i decide to play a pick-up game against other ppl, she'll just sit and admire and afterwards she'll like me a lot more. In short, ur best bet is to have a date that is centered around a) wutever ur good at and will make u look good or b) whatever type things you've learned she's interested in. I like the first date to make me look good and the second to open her up by having it be about what shes interested in.
You're talking to a guy who doesn't really have athletic talent, musical talent, etc. Although I do visit the gym 6days a week, I just hit the weights.
I've always made the claim that I was given not talent, but I have no trouble learning anything, really fast.
 

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Dude, it's not about what you do, it's about who you are. The fact that you take her to "right places" doesn't mean sh1t if your skills aren't in order. Be a DJ and she won't care what the two of you do as long as she is with you. ;)
 

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The two BEST places in the whole world to take any date.


  • [*]Your place
    [*]Your bedroom


And it's cheap.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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For God's sake don't do the "I'll buy you dinner" thing.

BORING, BORING BORING!! Any AFC will do that!

Action dates are what you need, bike somewhere, take her shooting at a shooting range (You will be amazed how many women are interested in guns and never have the chance to shoot), rollerblade, hike in the woods, do something with action, so you can talk, but continue to do interesting things. Eating dinner is not interesting unless you do it while parachuting.

If you have the moeny you can do really unique things like ballooning. If not, stick to cheap things like biking.

Good luck

Dietzcoi
 
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