"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Give her another shot?

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I invited a chic I've been messaging on Facebook for a while to come out with me and my friends for bowling. She said she'd get back to me. Didn't say no. Told her I'd be there at 9PM. She messages me at 8:50pm that she can't make it. WTF.

I thought she could at least have told me straight up that she wasn't going to make it. She counter-offered the next morning. I would respect a chic more, if she would have just declined the offer, not make like "oh. I'll see" and say she can't make it 10 mins before the appointed time.

Am I being irrational? Or was that really BS on her part?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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and she is probably saying she would respect a dude more if he invited her on the phone and not over the internet.
 

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Would have. I don't mind calling chics up. This one prefers texting.
 

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konmai said:
Would have. I don't mind calling chics up. This one prefers texting.
She prefers texting? Then phone her. You should be shaking up her comfort zone. Don't let her dictate to you or control the communications in any way.

She knows you're interested now. So it's up to her whether she wants to display interest in return. What was the counter-offer?
 

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She's up for doing something this week, but I have to study for an exam. She already knew about this, so I'm not sure if she offered just 'cause she knew I was going to be busy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Could be a test, to see if you're b**** enough to compromise your studies for her.

To be sure of her interest, maybe ask what she has in mind, then regardless of what she says, just don't reply, at all.
 

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Sounds like it. I declined. Said next time. I'm just going to go NC and find some other chics. Too bad. Thought she was a possible gem till she started this.
 
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