"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Give her another shot?

konmai

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I invited a chic I've been messaging on Facebook for a while to come out with me and my friends for bowling. She said she'd get back to me. Didn't say no. Told her I'd be there at 9PM. She messages me at 8:50pm that she can't make it. WTF.

I thought she could at least have told me straight up that she wasn't going to make it. She counter-offered the next morning. I would respect a chic more, if she would have just declined the offer, not make like "oh. I'll see" and say she can't make it 10 mins before the appointed time.

Am I being irrational? Or was that really BS on her part?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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and she is probably saying she would respect a dude more if he invited her on the phone and not over the internet.
 

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Would have. I don't mind calling chics up. This one prefers texting.
 

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konmai said:
Would have. I don't mind calling chics up. This one prefers texting.
She prefers texting? Then phone her. You should be shaking up her comfort zone. Don't let her dictate to you or control the communications in any way.

She knows you're interested now. So it's up to her whether she wants to display interest in return. What was the counter-offer?
 

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She's up for doing something this week, but I have to study for an exam. She already knew about this, so I'm not sure if she offered just 'cause she knew I was going to be busy.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Could be a test, to see if you're b**** enough to compromise your studies for her.

To be sure of her interest, maybe ask what she has in mind, then regardless of what she says, just don't reply, at all.
 

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Sounds like it. I declined. Said next time. I'm just going to go NC and find some other chics. Too bad. Thought she was a possible gem till she started this.
 
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