"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hi guys,

How do you handle social events where there maybe a group of girls together with the odd guy, e.g at a bar, work, social gathering etc and they just start all this boring girl talk about I like your handbag or your make up is nice where did you get it? etc. I just walk away can't be bothered with all that crap. Then of course they start on you don't they, either good or bad. I had this rather large women tell me I should wear more colourful clothes, I could see it coming. Just kept thinking don't lecture me, get on a diet. Of course I never said anything, but I do feel those situations embarasing and where do they get their high opinions?. I am often suprised about how some damm ugly women think they are gorgeous.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'd turn on the a$$hole sarcastic switch... and no, its not lowering yourself to their level, it's subtly telling them, "listen, if you want to talk to me, have something important to say"

fatty: You need to wear more colorful clothes
You: No, the last thing i want to look like is lollipop around you.
 

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Was the woman who told you to wear more colorful clothes being mean about it?
 

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KontrollerX said:
Was the woman who told you to wear more colorful clothes being mean about it?
Not to be disrespectful kontroller, but does it really matter whether she was mean about it or not?

I look at it this way, if one of your guy friends said that to you; because you have no intention of bedding him, you automaticaly don't give a damn; then you throw it back into his face for the fun of it.

Now, in the given situation, there a 'large' woman, whom i hope the OP doesn't have a sexual interest in, therefore he should treat her as another guy, regardless of how she said it.

and if she can't take a joke, fuvk her.
 

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blackbelt2k said:
I'd turn on the a$$hole sarcastic switch... and no, its not lowering yourself to their level, it's subtly telling them, "listen, if you want to talk to me, have something important to say"

fatty: You need to wear more colorful clothes
You: No, the last thing i want to look like is lollipop around you.
ROFL cold and calcualted i like it
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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telling you to wear colorful clothes is not an insult
 

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blackbelt2k said:
I'd turn on the a$$hole sarcastic switch... and no, its not lowering yourself to their level, it's subtly telling them, "listen, if you want to talk to me, have something important to say"

fatty: You need to wear more colorful clothes
You: No, the last thing i want to look like is lollipop around you.

Someone get this man a beer.
 

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somebody get me a beer!

they are trying to make conversation, they have no idea that you don't care about anything that enters their minds.
perhaps you should tell them.
 

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Jeremymichael said:
Hi guys,

How do you handle social events where there maybe a group of girls together with the odd guy, e.g at a bar, work, social gathering etc and they just start all this boring girl talk about I like your handbag or your make up is nice where did you get it? etc. I just walk away can't be bothered with all that crap. Then of course they start on you don't they, either good or bad. I had this rather large women tell me I should wear more colourful clothes, I could see it coming. Just kept thinking don't lecture me, get on a diet. Of course I never said anything, but I do feel those situations embarasing and where do they get their high opinions?. I am often suprised about how some damm ugly women think they are gorgeous.
Luckily, I do my best to avoid being in a group of women for too long. I learned that in high school.

Actually, I usually hang out with a few guys in the group, and I start talking about "guy" stuff in front of the women. It'll usually stop them. Either that, or I make fun of them - copying them. Yeah, it's stupid, but it seems to work pretty well.
 

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If you don't like female company, I think you're on the wrong message board. :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Join in the conversation and make it interesting. Just don't become another girl pal. If you have no interest in the chicks at hand you can always stray.
 

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yes I just make an excuse to wonder off. I don't mind a bit of all that girly talk, but after a while it gets on my nerves.
 

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why are you guys being so sensitive to women. In all honesty its making me want to sh!t out all my testosterone. Who give a flying duck what they are talking about, tell the large one to have a donut and you lead the convo.

Girl1: blah balh
girl 2: bla blah balh
large: colorful clothes blah albh
you: you girls are boring, is that all you talk about.
girls: yes, because blah balh
you: my beer is going sour the more i listen to this, hwo are your beers
 

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I wonder what would happen if you were to say actually I don't like your clothes you look fat.. Men don't tend to do that but I have known women to be cutting (maybe the bytch test?).

When they start talking about appearances I think you could be on dodgy grounds because what you say or have them they say to you could get personal so I tend not to comment. I don't like attention it reminds me of those embarassing days as a school boy when someone may say at a party look at Johnny he looks so cute and everyone at the party would smile or my aunty would say who is this handsome man right in front everyone and start fussing around me.
 

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Jeremymichael said:
I wonder what would happen if you were to say actually I don't like your clothes you look fat.. Men don't tend to do that but I have known women to be cutting (maybe the bytch test?).

When they start talking about appearances I think you could be on dodgy grounds because what you can say or have them they say to you could get personal, so I tend not to comment.
That is true Jeremy...but the only time you should be on dogy grounds is with YOUR WOMAN, not just any woman.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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yes you are right I was thinking in terms of family, friends, work associates etc.. Actually on some occasions I do like to compliment people but I don't do often and therefore when I say something people respect my opinion. I don't say things for the sake of it or just to make conversation which is typically the scenario above.

My sister had put on weight a few years ago and was a regular at a coffee shop and the lady behind the counter said "I'm so happy for you when is the baby due"- I'm still laughing now, needless to say she didn't go in there for a while!
 

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Jeremymichael said:
yes you are right I was thinking in terms of family, friends, work associates etc.. Actually I like complimenting people but I don't like it on me for some reason I just start feeling embarassed (insecurities I guess).

My sister had put on weight a few years ago and was a regular at a coffee shop and the lady behind the counter said "I'm so happy for you when is the baby due"- I'm still laughing now, needless to say she didn't go in there for a while!
ohh no, you should have beat that counter beoch with a stick, gotta stick up for family.
 
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