"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hi guys,

How do you handle social events where there maybe a group of girls together with the odd guy, e.g at a bar, work, social gathering etc and they just start all this boring girl talk about I like your handbag or your make up is nice where did you get it? etc. I just walk away can't be bothered with all that crap. Then of course they start on you don't they, either good or bad. I had this rather large women tell me I should wear more colourful clothes, I could see it coming. Just kept thinking don't lecture me, get on a diet. Of course I never said anything, but I do feel those situations embarasing and where do they get their high opinions?. I am often suprised about how some damm ugly women think they are gorgeous.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'd turn on the a$$hole sarcastic switch... and no, its not lowering yourself to their level, it's subtly telling them, "listen, if you want to talk to me, have something important to say"

fatty: You need to wear more colorful clothes
You: No, the last thing i want to look like is lollipop around you.
 

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Was the woman who told you to wear more colorful clothes being mean about it?
 

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KontrollerX said:
Was the woman who told you to wear more colorful clothes being mean about it?
Not to be disrespectful kontroller, but does it really matter whether she was mean about it or not?

I look at it this way, if one of your guy friends said that to you; because you have no intention of bedding him, you automaticaly don't give a damn; then you throw it back into his face for the fun of it.

Now, in the given situation, there a 'large' woman, whom i hope the OP doesn't have a sexual interest in, therefore he should treat her as another guy, regardless of how she said it.

and if she can't take a joke, fuvk her.
 

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blackbelt2k said:
I'd turn on the a$$hole sarcastic switch... and no, its not lowering yourself to their level, it's subtly telling them, "listen, if you want to talk to me, have something important to say"

fatty: You need to wear more colorful clothes
You: No, the last thing i want to look like is lollipop around you.
ROFL cold and calcualted i like it
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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telling you to wear colorful clothes is not an insult
 

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blackbelt2k said:
I'd turn on the a$$hole sarcastic switch... and no, its not lowering yourself to their level, it's subtly telling them, "listen, if you want to talk to me, have something important to say"

fatty: You need to wear more colorful clothes
You: No, the last thing i want to look like is lollipop around you.

Someone get this man a beer.
 

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somebody get me a beer!

they are trying to make conversation, they have no idea that you don't care about anything that enters their minds.
perhaps you should tell them.
 

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Jeremymichael said:
Hi guys,

How do you handle social events where there maybe a group of girls together with the odd guy, e.g at a bar, work, social gathering etc and they just start all this boring girl talk about I like your handbag or your make up is nice where did you get it? etc. I just walk away can't be bothered with all that crap. Then of course they start on you don't they, either good or bad. I had this rather large women tell me I should wear more colourful clothes, I could see it coming. Just kept thinking don't lecture me, get on a diet. Of course I never said anything, but I do feel those situations embarasing and where do they get their high opinions?. I am often suprised about how some damm ugly women think they are gorgeous.
Luckily, I do my best to avoid being in a group of women for too long. I learned that in high school.

Actually, I usually hang out with a few guys in the group, and I start talking about "guy" stuff in front of the women. It'll usually stop them. Either that, or I make fun of them - copying them. Yeah, it's stupid, but it seems to work pretty well.
 

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If you don't like female company, I think you're on the wrong message board. :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Join in the conversation and make it interesting. Just don't become another girl pal. If you have no interest in the chicks at hand you can always stray.
 

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yes I just make an excuse to wonder off. I don't mind a bit of all that girly talk, but after a while it gets on my nerves.
 

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why are you guys being so sensitive to women. In all honesty its making me want to sh!t out all my testosterone. Who give a flying duck what they are talking about, tell the large one to have a donut and you lead the convo.

Girl1: blah balh
girl 2: bla blah balh
large: colorful clothes blah albh
you: you girls are boring, is that all you talk about.
girls: yes, because blah balh
you: my beer is going sour the more i listen to this, hwo are your beers
 

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I wonder what would happen if you were to say actually I don't like your clothes you look fat.. Men don't tend to do that but I have known women to be cutting (maybe the bytch test?).

When they start talking about appearances I think you could be on dodgy grounds because what you say or have them they say to you could get personal so I tend not to comment. I don't like attention it reminds me of those embarassing days as a school boy when someone may say at a party look at Johnny he looks so cute and everyone at the party would smile or my aunty would say who is this handsome man right in front everyone and start fussing around me.
 

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Jeremymichael said:
I wonder what would happen if you were to say actually I don't like your clothes you look fat.. Men don't tend to do that but I have known women to be cutting (maybe the bytch test?).

When they start talking about appearances I think you could be on dodgy grounds because what you can say or have them they say to you could get personal, so I tend not to comment.
That is true Jeremy...but the only time you should be on dogy grounds is with YOUR WOMAN, not just any woman.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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yes you are right I was thinking in terms of family, friends, work associates etc.. Actually on some occasions I do like to compliment people but I don't do often and therefore when I say something people respect my opinion. I don't say things for the sake of it or just to make conversation which is typically the scenario above.

My sister had put on weight a few years ago and was a regular at a coffee shop and the lady behind the counter said "I'm so happy for you when is the baby due"- I'm still laughing now, needless to say she didn't go in there for a while!
 

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Jeremymichael said:
yes you are right I was thinking in terms of family, friends, work associates etc.. Actually I like complimenting people but I don't like it on me for some reason I just start feeling embarassed (insecurities I guess).

My sister had put on weight a few years ago and was a regular at a coffee shop and the lady behind the counter said "I'm so happy for you when is the baby due"- I'm still laughing now, needless to say she didn't go in there for a while!
ohh no, you should have beat that counter beoch with a stick, gotta stick up for family.
 
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