"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Girls

Kerensky

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 9, 2005
Messages
529
Reaction score
1
Location
United States
I've always been an independent guy. I've always had a oneitis, sure, but I was able to keep that toned down and didnt' think much of it. I've always wanted a gf kinda sorta, but didn't really feel the need to do anything.

Now all that has changed and I feel so desperate. Why am I so desperate all of a sudden? I'm not showing still, but man I can feel it building up.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

MyNameIsTaken

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 26, 2005
Messages
56
Reaction score
0
Age
36
Location
Missing and presumed dead sexy.
Originally posted by Kerensky
I've always been an independent guy. I've always had a oneitis, sure, but I was able to keep that toned down and didnt' think much of it. I've always wanted a gf kinda sorta, but didn't really feel the need to do anything.

Now all that has changed and I feel so desperate. Why am I so desperate all of a sudden? I'm not showing still, but man I can feel it building up.
Because you've finally discovered that you're a loser...






J/K, yeah, I feel/felt the same way. So, now I'm breaking out of my shell and am gonna go up to a chick, grab her ass, and say, "let's do something... logical..."(Star Trek, yes I am a nerd).
 

Layla

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 20, 2004
Messages
234
Reaction score
0
Age
37
Location
tx
hmm.....Lately I've actually been feeling the urge to settle down with one girl for a while. Now I used to be totally against this, but I dont know whats gotten into me. I think i gotta go do some more approaches.

Kerensky, How many girls are you seeing/ whens the last time you saw a girl? If its been like a year then yeah, your going to start feeling desperate- because you ARE desperate.

Get out in the field and get some new numbers!
 

Kerensky

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 9, 2005
Messages
529
Reaction score
1
Location
United States
No man I've been single all my life. I was a major AFC my freshman year, and now all the good chicks are taken. I'm a really popular guy and people love me, but I guess I'm successfully friendzoned 100% of the girls at my school. Yep.

I don't mind being single. I tend to like to 'settle down' but with 1 year left, I don't see the point in getting involved. I'm just going to do my job in school (study), get into a good college and pull a houdini. Seriously, if I had more balls or found this site 1 year earlier, I wouldn't be posting this, but you can't change the past so I guess I'll just learn from it.
 

Layla

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 20, 2004
Messages
234
Reaction score
0
Age
37
Location
tx
Hey. It's cool that your taking college and school seriously. But if you've never had a girl, its no wonder why you would call yourself desperate.

Man, chicks are a great addition to life. You can say you dont mind being single, but how can you know whats better if you've never gone out?
It doesnt have to be with chicks from your school--id ont go for my school chicks. The next time you see a hot girl, approach her. Find out a little about her. Ask her number, and if you get it, GREAT, if you dont, GREAT. Just try again.
At least TRY girls out. Please. For me. It'll be a life changing experience.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

Kerensky

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 9, 2005
Messages
529
Reaction score
1
Location
United States
I'm a busy man. I don't have time to pursue chicks outta my school. You know, I'm over it now because I thought about it logically. There are some girls who I am interested in, but they're taken. Their BFs are good buddies of mine, and I'm pretty much in the friendzone with them anyway. So I'm just going to let it all go and forget it because afterall, what right do I have to mess up their relationships?
 

Kerensky

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 9, 2005
Messages
529
Reaction score
1
Location
United States
Yeah I've got it set. I'm going to be one independent motherf*cker. I don't need anyone. I will be like a comet lighting everything in my path, but never staying for long, in the words of BBB.

I don't need other people. All I need is my music, my computer, food, water, my family, and myself.
 

Joe The Homophobe

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 8, 2004
Messages
1,212
Reaction score
8
Location
USA
Don't be so hard on yourself. As long as you keep the attitude you are developing now and put 100% into becoming a DJ when you enter college, than everything will be ok because you are determined to make up for the past. College can be the start of a new life.
 
Top