Girls you choose to meet vs. girls you happen to meet

[Dysfunctional]

After reading a couple of posts in the forum I noticed that picking up girls seems to be a big part of DJ-ing. I came to this forum because I could see that this stuff isn't bull, I thought back on situations (I have something of an eidetic memory) and re-evaluated them with these new theories, realizing that they should apply and then tested them. I know it's for real.

Usually, when I meet girls, I do so under a different pretext that the usual. Then, after saying Hi and maybe talking for a bit, I can usually tell if I'm into her or not (Girl's a real person now, instead of just a pretty face), and if so: In what way? I just take it from there, simple and plain.

Then, about picking up girls:
I was at the club tonight and thought it fit to try and pick up some girls with my new and improved skills (actually just my new grown cojones )

Long story short: I never did. I'm a big stinking coward. I had plenty of opportunity. What I tried to do was to make EC and wave them over. I couldn't even make EC, it seemed.

The thing is that I don't *need* to pick up girls to meet them, I meet my share anyway. So I wonder if there's anyting in doing it other that that.

I'd love to have it as a skill and as soon as I've scraped up enough confidence to do so I'll do it.

Right now I'm mostly about trying to smile at every person I talk to, meet or make EC with - And not to look down when I make EC with someone (I almost never used to smile and almost always looked away) It seems to make people more friendly towards you and that's good, not only with girls.

 

[darth yoda]

The thing is that I don't *need* to pick up girls to meet them, I meet my share anyway. So I wonder if there's anyting in doing it other that that.

It sounds like you're making excuses, just develop the ability to pick-up, and you won't have to leave things to chance.

 

[satyriasis]

Picking up & talking to women or people in general isn't something you should HAVE to do.

It should be something that you should WANT to do. Don't force yourself to talk to women.

 

[Dysfunctional]

Originally posted by satyriasis
Picking up & talking to women or people in general isn't something you should HAVE to do.

It should be something that you should WANT to do. Don't force yourself to talk to women.

It's not the talking I have a problem with, just the actual "picking up", as it's under the pretense of scoring a # or more.

I guess my problem is that I just can't be casual when picking up, otherwise I'm great at keeping cool, cause there's no agenda. Only if I want there to be one, then I'm in control.

So I just have to keep casual and in control. Now how the hell do I do that?

 

[TxCowboy]

Originally posted by Dysfunctional
After reading a couple of posts in the forum I noticed that picking up girls seems to be a big part of DJ-ing. I came to this forum because I could see that this stuff isn't bull, I thought back on situations (I have something of an eidetic memory) and re-evaluated them with these new theories, realizing that they should apply and then tested them. I know it's for real.

Usually, when I meet girls, I do so under a different pretext that the usual. Then, after saying Hi and maybe talking for a bit, I can usually tell if I'm into her or not (Girl's a real person now, instead of just a pretty face), and if so: In what way? I just take it from there, simple and plain.

Then, about picking up girls:
I was at the club tonight and thought it fit to try and pick up some girls with my new and improved skills (actually just my new grown cojones )

Long story short: I never did. I'm a big stinking coward. I had plenty of opportunity. What I tried to do was to make EC and wave them over. I couldn't even make EC, it seemed.

The thing is that I don't *need* to pick up girls to meet them, I meet my share anyway. So I wonder if there's anyting in doing it other that that.

I'd love to have it as a skill and as soon as I've scraped up enough confidence to do so I'll do it.

Right now I'm mostly about trying to smile at every person I talk to, meet or make EC with - And not to look down when I make EC with someone (I almost never used to smile and almost always looked away) It seems to make people more friendly towards you and that's good, not only with girls.

Dont even think about all this cr@p dude. Just relax and talk to whoever because you are a social person who just wants to meet new people and enjoy life w/o caring about the consequences ....

 

[Dysfunctional]

Re: Re: Girls you choose to meet vs. girls you happen to meet

Originally posted by TxCowboy
Dont even think about all this cr@p dude. Just relax and talk to whoever because you are a social person who just wants to meet new people and enjoy life w/o caring about the consequences ....

That's some good advice man. Thanks!