"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ocbeachbum

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I know it sounds crazy but im attracted to girls with problems. What I mean is like they have been abused by past boyfriends, family, etc or having a drug/alohol problem. I dont know why but they like me too. Its like im the comfort that they are looking for. Where can I even begin to look for girls like this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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Don't be stupid. Don't be a hero. Hooking up with girls like these is setting yourself up for disaster. Unless you want a dating life from hell, stay away from these girls.
 

biker_gixxer

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to each his own bro. girls like this are a dime a dozen, you'll run into a girl with some sort of issue sooner or later.
 

spidersense

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Originally posted by ocbeachbum
I know it sounds crazy but im attracted to girls with problems. What I mean is like they have been abused by past boyfriends, family, etc or having a drug/alohol problem. I dont know why but they like me too. Its like im the comfort that they are looking for. Where can I even begin to look for girls like this?
question to ask yourself: were you raised in an alcoholic or drug addicted home. Seriously. family members of alcoholics tend to play certain roles in the family, one of which is called the "hero" Watch the movie "Under The Influence" with Andy Griffith and Keanu Reeves, it's one of the best movies for demonstrating the different roles that family members play. Andy Griffith's daughter in that movie was what was called the "hero" she was the one that always tried to get him to stop drinking, she would put water in his alcohol and other things.

Seriously, you don't want an alcoholic or drug addict, not even a truely clean and sober one. The give bad genes.

One more thing, if you are from an alcoholic family(this may not be imediate family, it could be your gradfather or even great grand father, the behavior patterns are still passed on even if the family members don't drink), and you don't drink yourself, go to Al-Anon. There is a lot of crap that goes on in these peoples minds that they are not aware of that makes them this way. Fix that junk and I'm willing to bet that you will start attracting different types on women.
 

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oh, and if you study psychology you learn that people that play these roles in families will go out and meet people that play these roles in families. You tend to be attracted to your upbringing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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