DanishDJ
Don Juan
Lately I have gotten numbers from a couple of girls that tells me they have boyfriends. What is the best way to play it then? Just ignoring it and doing what I normally would do?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Blatant truth
Don Juan
1. Read above post
or
2. Ignore it and do what you normally do.
If you take option 2, a few scenarios could occur:
-she could ljbf you
-you realize that she is just using you for attention
-you actually score with this chick...which will lead to other possible outcomes which I won't list here.
Ask yourself, is she worth it?
or
2. Ignore it and do what you normally do.
If you take option 2, a few scenarios could occur:
-she could ljbf you
-you realize that she is just using you for attention
-you actually score with this chick...which will lead to other possible outcomes which I won't list here.
Ask yourself, is she worth it?
DjDreamer
Master Don Juan
:crackup:
Boy oh boy... why do some folks make things so hard themselves?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
diplomatic_lies
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Funny, at least half hot women I know are still single.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I mean honestly, has ANYONE here read ANY of the DJ bible?
Have ANY of you have ANY real life Experience?
The answers to your questions have been posted time and time again. I hate to get aggitated, but it's getting old and getting old quick.
Look, it's a BOYFRIEND.
BOYFRIEND.
Not Husband.
Not Fiancee'
BOY-FRIEND
If you can pull her from her BOYFRIEND, more power to you..
lol, advoding a girl that has a BOYFRIEND, no matter how serious in my opinion at least, is down right Dumb, that's crap I would expect to find on Laguna Beach, not here
Now, if she choose not to date me or to hook up with me because of him, more power to her AND him.. he has done a good job of keeping his girl interested in their relationship..
But it's not YOUR job to give a damn about their relationship. That's what FRIENDS do
Two very quick stories... both last year. I met this girl, actually went to school with her in high school and was cute then, was a 9 now. Got her number from her, and seemed interested, even wanted to come and "catch up" with me after work at my house, but couldn't close the deal. She told me she didn't think her BF would think it's a good idea.
I wished her the best and told Her I would catch up with her at our class reunion
Another story, same place actually, I met a girl, who was also a bartender, a couple of years older than me, that flirted with me like crazy. Turns out she was married... had been married for 5 years. But she was flirting with me so bad that all of the other waitiresses called me her secret BF.
So I invited her back to my apartment one night, and she came, and i closed the deal.
did i feel bad? Not at all. Why? If he was doing his job right, his WIFE wouldn't be throwing the pvssy at me, literarly begging me to take it.
I mean, you have the moral issue of banging a married woman, but that's up to every man. I for one dont' think of it as in issue, espically these days.
I mean, what is a BF/GF anyway but a title in reality? There are some girls who are with a guy, just to be with him. A girl will tell you she has a BF, and very well may have one, but she may be telling you that just to tell you that she is wanted by other men and concered attratcive enough to date, the same way we flaunt around social proof at clubs, to let other girls know we are desired by women.
By automatically putting the girl in the no touch zone because she has a BF, of any kind, you loose
Have ANY of you have ANY real life Experience?
The answers to your questions have been posted time and time again. I hate to get aggitated, but it's getting old and getting old quick.
Look, it's a BOYFRIEND.
BOYFRIEND.
Not Husband.
Not Fiancee'
BOY-FRIEND
If you can pull her from her BOYFRIEND, more power to you..
lol, advoding a girl that has a BOYFRIEND, no matter how serious in my opinion at least, is down right Dumb, that's crap I would expect to find on Laguna Beach, not here
Now, if she choose not to date me or to hook up with me because of him, more power to her AND him.. he has done a good job of keeping his girl interested in their relationship..
But it's not YOUR job to give a damn about their relationship. That's what FRIENDS do
Two very quick stories... both last year. I met this girl, actually went to school with her in high school and was cute then, was a 9 now. Got her number from her, and seemed interested, even wanted to come and "catch up" with me after work at my house, but couldn't close the deal. She told me she didn't think her BF would think it's a good idea.
I wished her the best and told Her I would catch up with her at our class reunion
Another story, same place actually, I met a girl, who was also a bartender, a couple of years older than me, that flirted with me like crazy. Turns out she was married... had been married for 5 years. But she was flirting with me so bad that all of the other waitiresses called me her secret BF.
So I invited her back to my apartment one night, and she came, and i closed the deal.
did i feel bad? Not at all. Why? If he was doing his job right, his WIFE wouldn't be throwing the pvssy at me, literarly begging me to take it.
I mean, you have the moral issue of banging a married woman, but that's up to every man. I for one dont' think of it as in issue, espically these days.
I mean, what is a BF/GF anyway but a title in reality? There are some girls who are with a guy, just to be with him. A girl will tell you she has a BF, and very well may have one, but she may be telling you that just to tell you that she is wanted by other men and concered attratcive enough to date, the same way we flaunt around social proof at clubs, to let other girls know we are desired by women.
By automatically putting the girl in the no touch zone because she has a BF, of any kind, you loose
mattathensga
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Amen Backbreaker... I'm in a situation right now with a "involved" girl.... first, ask yourself What the Hell do you care? secondly, IF She was happily involved she wouldn't have interest in you... two key pieces of advice I can give, and these are universal...
No matter how hot a woman is, someone, somewhere, is sick of her $hit.
and...
every girl has been someones boyfriend at some point in her life... does it matter to you if you meet a girl who's recently broken up w her BF, and she's still in love with him??
It shouldn't. its your job to show her what you're worth, and its her job to make that decision. its not your fault if she cheats on her boyfriend, and you can attempt to rationalize HIm not taking care of her, but if anyone is to blame its her, for not being honest with herself about her situation. I just came out of a relationship where MY FIANCE cheated on me, right after I proposed... the only way I found out is B/c she got preagnant by this guy.... And now I'm basically that guy... At first I was pissed as hell at him, but eventually I realized it was bc SHE was a biotch, and a liar... I couldn't be mad at him for doing what he did, it wasn't his fault SHE didn't respect her and my relationship... SO I've been on both sides of this coin, within a year...
Look, if you want it, go for it, its up to her whether or not she has a BF at the time shes with you...
No matter how hot a woman is, someone, somewhere, is sick of her $hit.
and...
every girl has been someones boyfriend at some point in her life... does it matter to you if you meet a girl who's recently broken up w her BF, and she's still in love with him??
It shouldn't. its your job to show her what you're worth, and its her job to make that decision. its not your fault if she cheats on her boyfriend, and you can attempt to rationalize HIm not taking care of her, but if anyone is to blame its her, for not being honest with herself about her situation. I just came out of a relationship where MY FIANCE cheated on me, right after I proposed... the only way I found out is B/c she got preagnant by this guy.... And now I'm basically that guy... At first I was pissed as hell at him, but eventually I realized it was bc SHE was a biotch, and a liar... I couldn't be mad at him for doing what he did, it wasn't his fault SHE didn't respect her and my relationship... SO I've been on both sides of this coin, within a year...
Look, if you want it, go for it, its up to her whether or not she has a BF at the time shes with you...
mattathensga
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LOL, Jesus, I just read what I posted... I"VE woken up... I just posted about this a week or so ago, my first post, with the same dilemma... its crazy how fast I've accepted my fate... I guess I'm becoming a DJ!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
it's funny when you first get here, and you start learning, and then it hits you about all of the crap you did that was AFC/stupid before you knew better.. I was ashamed of myslef
Cocky-Blond-Guy
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I'm not going to act like I'm some sort of player, but truth be told, almost EVERY girl I've been with had a BF when we first met, or while we were going at it. Some were even married....
The beauty of this is that if they do have a b/f and you don't hook up...well...sh!t...you can't really hate on her for being honorable to her man or w/e.
But if you do hook up, well for the most part you just got ur self a chick on the side...potentially becoming fvck buddies, or something more. Even if nothing happened further...at least you got some action eh?
Tell em what they wanna hear and then go at it like rabbits
No harm, no foul. (I think...) After all...its just some d!ck crazed chick who can't say no. Is that your fault?
NO.
The beauty of this is that if they do have a b/f and you don't hook up...well...sh!t...you can't really hate on her for being honorable to her man or w/e.
But if you do hook up, well for the most part you just got ur self a chick on the side...potentially becoming fvck buddies, or something more. Even if nothing happened further...at least you got some action eh?
Tell em what they wanna hear and then go at it like rabbits
No harm, no foul. (I think...) After all...its just some d!ck crazed chick who can't say no. Is that your fault?
NO.
DjDreamer
Master Don Juan
You sir lack self respect... you are typing because you just love to see yourself type...
Answer this... if someone desperately wants a car and he doesn't have a car... should he steal your car?