"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girls Who Work In Bars?

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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also I seen a few of them smacking male co counterparts on the ass clearly wants to dominate the males. thats why they are there supply and demand for the ego
 

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So chicks who work in bars, clubs, pubs etc, would you consider them for LTR?

And if not.. Why not?
It can be a fast track for a woman to become hard and cynical. And it can greatly increase the amount of attention she receives from men, potentially resulting in an overblown ego. There is also a high probability that she will learn to “work” and charm men in order to generate larger tips.

-Augustus-
 

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Just tell her that you're the modern equivalent of popeye the sailor and she's ur olive oyl...

It'll be an awesome relationship !
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What kind of bar? Sports bar? Hole in the wall? College bar? Martini bar?

It depends on the type of establishment. I've dated a girl who worked at a sports bar called Fox and Hound and there were no issues. Just kinda flamed out.
 
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I don’t mind barmaid type girls. It’s damn good money and they aren’t swinging on a pole with no clothes on.

I’m sure that some who automatically think they are sluts or BPD or some other affliction will say their piece. If she isn’t dressed like a nun there must be something wrong with them.
I guess she could work in some retail place and make 10.00 an hour. Maybe that will make her more angelic or palatable and less likely to do damage.
 

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It can be a fast track for a woman to become hard and cynical. And it can greatly increase the amount of attention she receives from men, potentially resulting in an overblown ego. There is also a high probability that she will learn to “work” and charm men in order to generate larger tips.

-Augustus-

I suppose vastly increases her options, higher possibility of her taking other Diks if things not going too well with her current guy.
 

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I only ask because, this chick has been hounding me to enter into a LTR with her.

She is your typical blonde, with HUGE titties.. Ideal barmaid material lol.

I had a 3sum with this bimbo many years ago, with one of her friends, so I know she has some slvtty tendencies lol.

I wouldn't even dream of having a LTR with her.. As a rule I personally wouldn't invest in a chick who works in bars and pubs, much HIGHER probability of things going wrong.

I was just curious on if you guys would consider investing in bar/pub/club workers!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I only ask because, this chick has been hounding me to enter into a LTR with her.

She is your typical blonde, with HUGE titties.. Ideal barmaid material lol.

I had a 3sum with this bimbo many years ago, with one of her friends, so I know she has some slvtty tendencies lol.

I wouldn't even dream of having a LTR with her.. As a rule I personally wouldn't invest in a chick who works in bars and pubs, much HIGHER probability of things going wrong.

I was just curious on if you guys would consider investing in bar/pub/club workers!
I think I would go for it.

Threesomes are becoming a lot more common, even in relationships. Women have a massive shield that they put up when they're working, that's why you shouldn't really talk to them when they're working.

I would be more worried if she was a stripper, hookers, cam girl...
 

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I was just curious on if you guys would consider investing in bar/pub/club workers!
It Never works for an insecure man with no other options. I knew a man in a similar LTR situation. She worked night shift and when he wasn’t sitting at home worrying about her he was at the bar keeping an eye on her, which killed the attraction in a creep way…
 
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I'm going to sound sanctimonious:

I've ALWAYS had a gut instinct that women bartenders/clubbers are somewhat related to strippers. To me they all seem cut from the same cloth.

I imagine that any woman (or man) who spends prolonged hours in a bar or club exposes her/himself to rotten humanity, and inevitably corrodes the soul. Can't trust them.

I tend to agree with this.
 

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I'm not expert in this, but I know of some hot college age girls with degrees who work at a very popular nightclub/bar/restaurant here in a big college town in AZ and they make a TON of money there from tips. Big difference between places like this or those with a higher class of clientele compared to sleezy dive bars, strip clubs, etc. I think looking at the clientele of the establishment is important, but at the end of the day it's just a job.
 

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I'm not expert in this, but I know of some hot college age girls with degrees who work at a very popular nightclub/bar/restaurant here in a big college town in AZ and they make a TON of money there from tips. Big difference between places like this or those with a higher class of clientele compared to sleezy dive bars, strip clubs, etc. I think looking at the clientele of the establishment is important, but at the end of the day it's just a job.
I've heard so much about AZ! I'm glad we have some intel from someone in the area. Some summary notes of various rumors as well as 1st, 2nd and 3rd person reports: It's supposed to be a colony of LA or at least it's suburbs. Basically LA lite. Home of the 29thousandaires. :) It used to be a bastion of really hot chicks from socal but the talent pool has gotten progressively watered down over the last few years with the surge of illegal immigration, and all of their native born offspring.

From what I can tell, AZ has basically been colonized by mexico, just like socal and tejas. I don't know if it's really worth a visit anymore. But legends of yore claim it was once an oasis of hotness.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm going to sound sanctimonious:

I've ALWAYS had a gut instinct that women bartenders/clubbers are somewhat related to strippers. To me they all seem cut from the same cloth.

I imagine that any woman (or man) who spends prolonged hours in a bar or club exposes her/himself to rotten humanity, and inevitably corrodes the soul. Can't trust them.
As a bartender I must admit that the life of fvcking and drinking can corrode the soul.

It messes you up physically and mentally making it hard to further yourself as an individual through reading books and doing daytime wholesome activities. It does give you massive game though nevertheless, although mostly for short term relationships.

So when it comes to judging a female bartender there is more to consider:
1. Is she an attention *****
2. Does she try to amog all the guys
3. Is she constantly drunk partying and making out
4. Did she move from a foreign country to escape wherever she was from and fully let loose
5. Is she a sweety, a slut, a girl with pride and poise, a girl who has no clue what she wants, a girl just working to pay the bills, a lonely girl who just wants to work in a bar to socialise a bit, etc.

We could even make a checklist here and figure out exactly what type she is and what you can or can't do with her.

It all depends.
 

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I've heard so much about AZ! I'm glad we have some intel from someone in the area. Some summary notes of various rumors as well as 1st, 2nd and 3rd person reports: It's supposed to be a colony of LA or at least it's suburbs. Basically LA lite. Home of the 29thousandaires. :) It used to be a bastion of really hot chicks from socal but the talent pool has gotten progressively watered down over the last few years with the surge of illegal immigration, and all of their native born offspring.

From what I can tell, AZ has basically been colonized by mexico, just like socal and tejas. I don't know if it's really worth a visit anymore. But legends of yore claim it was once an oasis of hotness.
I'm originally from MA but been living out here for about 4 years now. There are a ton of hot latinas where I live, which are my thing. Seriously, never seen so many women with tiny little waists and full breasts and wide hips and thick asses before I came out here.
 

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I'm originally from MA but been living out here for about 4 years now. There are a ton of hot latinas where I live, which are my thing. Seriously, never seen so many women with tiny little waists and full breasts and wide hips and thick asses before I came out here.
What's the racial breakdown? 50/50 latina/white? Maybe with a sprinkling of blacks and asians? That's what it sounds like. It's a pity if the hispanic population took over so rapidly.
 

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At least latina women take it in the culo.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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