"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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girls who talk about themself negatively...

chancer

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Have any of you been out with a girl and then she says some negative sh** about herself like "I've gained weight / I need to lose weight", I really don't know how to respond to it. I sometimes dissagree with them and feel akward. I think next time I'm going agree with them and also complement something I like about them. I donno though, are they trying to make me lose interest?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LegendBoy

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I had a gf like this and she was relatively good looking but had self esteem issues like most girls. YOU WONT BE ABLE TO CHANGE THEM... I even tried as it was on off relationship for like a year i was a mix of afc and jerk with her.. Don't try fixing her problems they DONT CHANGE SIMPLE AS THAT..

You either deal with it and understand thats the way it is or you get going...
 

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Most women of self image issues (enforced by society, media, fashion magazines etc.) . Its part of life.
 

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They are fishing for compliments.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yea, you gotta consider if their fishing for compliments or not. If shes obviously hot and is always surrounded with doods trying to get at her and shes goes and busts some sh!t like that, then yes, id say shes fishing. But if she really was dealing with insecurities, i find myself wanting to compliment them w/o sounding like a desperate AFC...so yea, thats a good question. How would u respond to a chick with some real(non-fishing) self-esteem issues?
 

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Things usually don't go too well if I just disagree with them. Am I suppose to feel sorry for them? i don't get it. Recently, I just didn't respond and started talking about something else. And then one girl said she was fat, and when I started touching her later, then she threw my hand off. Most of my complements aren't strong enough, although I admit there were times I should have acted after give one. It wouldn't make sense to be ****y/funny here cause they're already talking about themselves negatively. How do you guys complement them?
 

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most afc's will be like no you're not fat etc.

tell those girls to shut up in a ****y and funny way

i've done it before to some insecure girl and layed the pipe
 

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haven't i taught you guys anything yet?
when a woman says she has gained too much weight, or asks you if she is fat...
you put a big kiss on her and tell her she looks great and slap her ass .

compish?
 

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MY best replies (they fit my style, personality, and method of seduction):

Tss, SHUT UP! (said over exaggerated like someone just told you a crazy rumor)

Her:"I look SO fat today."
Me:"SHUT....UP."


Or I agree 100% with them and even take it further.
Her:" My armpits probably stink so bad right now." (when there is no reason for them to)

Me:"Whooo. Yeah they do. And your feet are pretty rank too....how about I just take you home to shower first?"


Do NOT disagree with them and do not surrender a compliment. The ony time being ****y and funny is off limits is if it's someting shes GENUINELY concerned about and cannot change. In which case she probably won't bring it up in normal conversation. (would you bring up having a small dlck?)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Freddy1 said:
Most women of self image issues (enforced by society, media, fashion magazines etc.) . Its part of life.

mularkey. weakness.

the gym isn't an exclusive club.



Teflon_Mcgee said:
Her:"I look SO fat today."
Me:"SHUT....UP."

Do you follow that up with what--ev---ERRR
 

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mrRuckus said:
mularkey. weakness.

the gym isn't an exclusive club.






Do you follow that up with what--ev---ERRR
Like, only like sometimes. You know, like, when they just, like, won't stop talking about, like, how big their butt is and stuff.
Then I'm like, whut---ev--eeeer gurl,
 
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