girls who show interest always turn out to have boyfriends

[lanba]

Why does it seem to be the case that the only girls who show interest in me are taken. If they want me then why wouldn't someone who's actually available want me?

 

[nismo-4]

Attention. Read the actions.

Oh yeah, every woman has a boyfriend. Your job is to be desirable enough (Have high value) for her to forget she has one.

Case closed.

 

[lanba]

but once I find out she has one, how do I tell if he's a threat to me or just a loser? The last time this happened to me I thought the guy was a loser but she still married him.

 

[Bwana]

I have used this one in years but if you find one that really is into to you and says they have a boyfriend say " wow that is great. I have a girlfriend. When we go out maybe they would want to hook up and go double." It has worked but only if the girl shows real interest

 

[Mike32ct]

Chicks who are taken are usually more friendly than single ones.

If you meet a pair of women: one friendly one and one that is a kunt, you can pretty much assume that the friendly one is taken and Miss Sunshine is single lol.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If they're single and nice to you, then they can be accused of leading you on and being a tease when they later reject you. But they know it won't come to that if they have a bf. They'll just act like you got the wrong idea, and it's your fault.

 

[Dadude548]

Chicks who are taken are usually more friendly than single ones.

That has been my experience over and over again. It seems that girls who are taken, don't have their guard up. They believe that they think that are unavailable to men so they don't worry about coming across as interested.

Right now the girl that is the friendliest to me out of all other girls I know has a boyfriend. And I bet that if she did have a boyfriend, she wouldn't be so open.

Though here is something interesting. My first and only girlfriend was one of those really friendly and taken girls, she was in a relationship for three years. Lucky enough for me, she was actually having trouble with her boyfriend, and because of some choice things I said to her that caused her to reevaluate her relationship, she ended it with him and started dating me. Then she randomly dumped me six months later

Your mileage may vary.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

If they're single and nice to you, then they can be accused of leading you on and being a tease when they later reject you. But they know it won't come to that if they have a bf. They'll just act like you got the wrong idea, and it's your fault.

Yup, and even if a girl is single, just because she reciprocates and engages you in conversation, actually talks back to you, makes an effort in conversation on her part, does not guarantee she is interested in dating you or sleeping with you, she could just be being polite and friendly, this is something that is still very difficult for me, being able to distinguish between if a girl is just being nice and friendly, polite or is actually interested

 

[Bible_Belt]

this is something that is still very difficult for me, being able to distinguish between if a girl is just being nice and friendly, polite or is actually interested

It's not just you. That is one of the hardest things about dealing with women. I don't know that there is one correct answer to the question. I can say that if you can manage to project an image that is sexual, without being sleazy, desperate, or lecherous, then at least the girl gets the idea very quickly. Guys who get laid talk to girls because they want to fvck them. When she figures out that's you, she won't want to waste your time and be called a tease later. If she doesn't like you, then she'll either immediately mention a boyfriend, or literally run away. I remember once being impressed at how fast a girl was moving across a parking lot in high heels just to avoid me Hell, that's better than wasting my time.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

this is something that is still very difficult for me, being able to distinguish between if a girl is just being nice and friendly, polite or is actually interested

It's not just you. That is one of the hardest things about dealing with women. I don't know that there is one correct answer to the question. I can say that if you can manage to project an image that is sexual, without being sleazy, desperate, or lecherous, then at least the girl gets the idea very quickly. Guys who get laid talk to girls because they want to fvck them. When she figures out that's you, she won't want to waste your time and be called a tease later. If she doesn't like you, then she'll either immediately mention a boyfriend, or literally run away. I remember once being impressed at how fast a girl was moving across a parking lot in high heels just to avoid me Hell, that's better than wasting my time.

Another thing I hate too is how girls expect guys to keep the conversation alive, and yet many people say a conversation is supposed to be a 2-way street

 

[foreverAFC]

women who are married or in relationships are the only ones who show me any interest

 

[hop On hop Off]

That has been my experience over and over again. It seems that girls who are taken, don't have their guard up. They believe that they think that are unavailable to men so they don't worry about coming across as interested.

I think you summarized the issue very well. I would have said the same myself.

 

[Mike32ct]

Married/"taken" women are often EXTREMELY jealous and insecure and will sometimes do what it takes to "prove their worth" by hitting on other men.

It's the typical female mindset, IMO: "I can have my cake and eat it too." Every MILF soccer mom out there wants to prove that she's still fvuckable. It's not enough to have a rich hubbie, etc. They get away with it, too, because American society CELEBRATES women being all things to everybody.

Absolutely.

It's also a form of attention horing. "I won't cheat on my man, but I can at least enjoy attention from other men."

 

[Maximus Rex]

Mystery on Boyfriends

The following is an excerpt from "The Mystery Method," By Mystery page 36

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=18373

"I Have a Boyfriend,"

Nine times out of ten, when a woman says, " I have a boyfriend," what this translates to is, "You just telegraphed too much interest."

It has nothing to do with whether she actually has a boyfriend. In fact if she is attracted to you, she will often deliberately hide the boyfriend from you until after you have had sex with her.

Whether she mentions him or not in no way proves that he actually exists-only that she had a motive to mention him.

1) Though she doesn't have a boyfriend, she's not attracted to you or you miscalibrated your escalation.

2) She DOES have a boyfriend and, given her current options, she has chosen to stick with that relationship.

3) She DOES have a boyfriend and is willing to sleep with you but wants to make sure that you understand her situation first. She wants DISCRETION and understanding. And though she might be available to you for sex, she NOT immediately available for more of a commitment.

4) She DOEShave a boyfriend and she IS willing to cheat on him (they often are if your game is tight,) but she doesn't want to feel guilty about it. This is her RATIONALIZATION process at work. As long as she mentions the boyfriend BEFORE sleeping with you, she can rationalize to herself that it was YOUR FAULT. Sure, she might regret it later, but that won't necessarily stop her from cheating.

5) She DOESN'T have a boyfriend and she IS attracted to you; she just doesn't want to look like a loser who can't get a man. Most hot women have orbiters anyway: nice guys who pose as their friends but secretly want to sleep with them. Since the word "boyfriend," can have so many different meanings, she is thinking of one of her orbitors as a "place keeper."

THE BOTTOM LINE IS, DON'T ASK ABOUT HER BOYFRIEND AND DON'T APPEAR FAZED IF SHE MENTIONS HIM. HE MAY NOT EVEN EXIST. JUST TAKE AS AN INSTANCE OF LACK OF INTEREST CAUSED BY YOU TELEGRAPHING TOO MUCH INTEREST FAR TOO SOON.

 

[bigneil]

When a girl refers to having a boyfriend it can mean many things. Remember, a woman is supposed to have a man in her life or she is considered less of a woman. A man meanwhile can be a lone wolf and not be considered less of a man.

Here are 3 examples of a woman telling you she has someone in her life, each with different meanings.

1) Me: "Are you single?"
Her: "Well, I'm seeing someone, but I'm not married... so we can get together".
Summary: In this case, she's both being honest that she has someone and also revealing that she is indeed interested. When you walk right up to the most gorgeous woman in the room, this is about best case scenario. So this is a good situation.

2) Me: "Are you single?"
Her: "No, I'm not single.... I do have a boyfriend, but we can still hang out. I'll give you my number.".
Summary: She didn't want me to drop out of her life due to her situation (she's not living with him). I usually use this as an excuse to hit on other hot women in front of them, or to tell them explicit stories about the other women I'm dating. This keeps their interest. But it's bad when they actually use the word boyfriend explicitly. This is just an ok situation.

3) Me: "I'll have a beer".
Her: "My boyfriend likes pizza".
Summary: When a girl randomly uses the word boyfriend, unprovoked, she is usually ruling you out. This is a bad situation.

So you have to address each case separately, but as a general rule, the more they like you, the more single they are.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

When a girl refers to having a boyfriend it can mean many things. Remember, a woman is supposed to have a man in her life or she is considered less of a woman. A man meanwhile can be a lone wolf and not be considered less of a man.

Here are 3 examples of a woman telling you she has someone in her life, each with different meanings.

1) Me: "Are you single?"
Her: "Well, I'm seeing someone, but I'm not married... so we can get together".
Summary: In this case, she's both being honest that she has someone and also revealing that she is indeed interested. When you walk right up to the most gorgeous woman in the room, this is about best case scenario. So this is a good situation.

2) Me: "Are you single?"
Her: "No, I'm not single.... I do have a boyfriend, but we can still hang out. I'll give you my number.".
Summary: She didn't want me to drop out of her life due to her situation (she's not living with him). I usually use this as an excuse to hit on other hot women in front of them, or to tell them explicit stories about the other women I'm dating. This keeps their interest. But it's bad when they actually use the word boyfriend explicitly. This is just an ok situation.

3) Me: "I'll have a beer".
Her: "My boyfriend likes pizza".
Summary: When a girl randomly uses the word boyfriend, unprovoked, she is usually ruling you out. This is a bad situation.

So you have to address each case separately, but as a general rule, the more they like you, the more single they are.

The part about lone Wolf is what I hate, despise, loathe so much, on how us guys are supposed to be so god damn independent

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

It depends on the situation and the girl. So many things can be interpreted as showing interest but they're really just meant to come off as friendly. Some girls are more handsy than others so they might touch you more often in conversation even if they are not interested in you. A lot of guys think just because a girl is speaking to them and carrying the conversation on it means she wants to **** when she could just be a friendly person. A lot of guys, particularly AFCs, are desperate for any sort of attention that they read way into a scenario:

AFC: "Hey, you having fun tonight?"
Girl: "Yeah I've never been here before, it's cool."
AFC: "Yeah...anyways you're cute."
Girl: "Thanks."

AFC then tries to close, gets rejected because she has a boyfriend, and complains on SS that she lead him on.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

It depends on the situation and the girl. So many things can be interpreted as showing interest but they're really just meant to come off as friendly. Some girls are more handsy than others so they might touch you more often in conversation even if they are not interested in you. A lot of guys think just because a girl is speaking to them and carrying the conversation on it means she wants to **** when she could just be a friendly person. A lot of guys, particularly AFCs, are desperate for any sort of attention that they read way into a scenario:

AFC: "Hey, you having fun tonight?"
Girl: "Yeah I've never been here before, it's cool."
AFC: "Yeah...anyways you're cute."
Girl: "Thanks."

AFC then tries to close, gets rejected because she has a boyfriend, and complains on SS that she lead him on.

yup, many people say it's a common struggle for many guys to tell the difference if a girl is just being nice and friendly or is actually interested in you