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Don Juan
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someone explain this to me.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I fialed to realize that last time...this time its on like donkey kong!ThunderMaverick said:It means their boyfriend isn't worth mentioning. Which means their boyfriend isn't in their list of top priorities. Which means she's looking for the next pimp in line, like Dr. P. usually says. =/
First and foremost, I am not a huge fan of women not being straigh forward and dishonest...yeah shocker!, i knowThomas94305 said:Run Forest.. RUN...
Umm.. hate to shock you, but some women are unfaithful too.
Let me assume that it was OBVIOUS she should have mentioned her bf.. not that you were asking for directions or some silly thing where mentioning a bf isn't needed... that is, there was romantic sparks between her and you, and it was advancing.
Think about why a woman would do this? She has a guy, isn't fully content there so wants other male attention, but doesn't first break up with him and let him go. That's one insecure woman. She's not fulfilled with her current BF. She's not working that out with him, or breaking up; the right thing IMO. She can either stay with a guy where she does not feel fulfilled, or she can break up.. she's doing neither. SO, perhaps she feels she can't get a good relationship going, or she is unable to be without a boyfriend.. the latter is a turn off to me, frankly.
Anyhow, the question to you is if you want to be the third person in a BF/GF relationship. Recommend you avoid this, there's others, and regret's not something you need.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That is where you're wrong. Think of her leaving her bf for you as...you eating a crappy fish for you're whole life and a new species appeared that is tastier and healthy. Without a doubt you're going to forget about the crappy fish and eat this new type of fish for the rest of your life until a better one comes along.Thomas94305 said:Run Forest.. RUN...
Umm.. hate to shock you, but some women are unfaithful too.
It all comes back to women living in the emotion of the moment. Here it is a fun, confident, cool guy who she is becoming attracted too. This girl isn't think about her bf right now unless you do or say something that associates you too her bf. She is there cracking up dieing laughing you think she is going to just blurt out her bf. No, only way i can see that happening is if she tries to blow you out from the start.Thomas94305 said:Think about why a woman would do this?
Snow Plowman said:That is where you're wrong. Think of her leaving her bf for you as...you eating a crappy fish for you're whole life and a new species appeared that is tastier and healthy. Without a doubt you're going to forget about the crappy fish and eat this new type of fish for the rest of your life until a better one comes along.
It all comes back to women living in the emotion of the moment. Here it is a fun, confident, cool guy who she is becoming attracted too. This girl isn't think about her bf right now unless you do or say something that associates you too her bf. She is there cracking up dieing laughing you think she is going to just blurt out her bf. No, only way i can see that happening is if she tries to blow you out from the start.
I actually have a thing (It just so happens) for always opening girls who have a bf. I remember sitting down in a girl's booth because there were no more seats and my friends are like "What if she is waiting for her bf." I swing around quickly and act like I'm her bf. This happened for only 30 seconds and just to be 100% sure that i wasn't in her bf seat I said. "Do you have a bf" she said no. Then one of my friends killed her Buying temperature and I asked again to be sure and she nods yes. Soon enough her bf came.
I also posted a thread about a chick wanting to be roommates with me...An she has a bf, but at first she tried to hide it thinking I'd stop talking to her. The first time she spoke about him she looked at me as if she got caught, because it just so happened my friend asked her if she bought something for her bf. Not once has this girl mentioned her bf ever since, if we talk about sex she doesn't say when her bf fuked her, she just says when she is having sex...
So if a girl doesn't mention her bf, she likes you to an extent. Her Buying temperature is probably up a bit. An she is going to hide the fact that she has a bf until maybe she starts sh!t testing you or if she might not speak about him at all. I still know this one girl that I never continued to talk too, who never told me she had a bf even though she rubs up my chest and always having high sexual tension. I only overheard her speaking about him to her friend in spanish.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I agree with this. I just want to point out.. does a DJ want to be with this woman? Your answer is up to you. The guy is not food, she can live for a while without one. If the guy is crappy fish, why not either work out the "crappy" stuff, or break up? Why hold herself back, and him through an indifferent relationship, from finding someone that matches? And, if she goes for me, we become bf/gf, what if I do something that pysses her off, or am just busy some week.. will she run off? If you're cool with those things, your choice.Snow Plowman said:That is where you're wrong. Think of her leaving her bf for you as...you eating a crappy fish for you're whole life and a new species appeared that is tastier and healthy. Without a doubt you're going to forget about the crappy fish and eat this new type of fish for the rest of your life until a better one comes along.
Yep.. if she's unfaithful caz she got giggly some afternoon, I wouldn't want to go out again.Snow Plowman said:It all comes back to women living in the emotion of the moment.