"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Girls w/ baggage

omgwtfm8

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 26, 2006
Messages
166
Reaction score
1
Why does it seem that all the girls that are relationship material always come w/ some sort of baggage.

Ex
Girls who can't let go from the ex boyfriend who only calls her for sex when he's lonely.
Girls who talk to their ex, remain friends and hang out
Girls who are just talking with other guys
Girls who can't get over their ex.

How do i deal with these girls in this situation? I haven't met a decent girl in the past 3 months with out some sort of baggage. I started hitting things off with a new chick, but she's flakey do to her ex boyfriend, who cheated a bunch of times, etc.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

SamePendo

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 30, 2003
Messages
2,393
Reaction score
14
Location
At home
How would you know those things?

Don't talk about those things in the first place. Let them btych after you fvck them, that way, their whyning seems to take another meaning, since now, they're yours.
 

sexy_kuta

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 1, 2006
Messages
1,080
Reaction score
10
Age
36
Location
NY
best thing is to chill with them but not too often.. ONCe a week.. and give them space, let them do the more calling,, Ie: let them call u more,

they need to relized what they want.. .trust me.. i chased a girl for 3 months... i was the rebound, u dont wanna go that route.. and shes a LTR material too

best thing is have some sort of contact wit her but not too much, talk to her once a while and NO MATTER WHAT dont listen to her talkin about her ex NEVER not ONCE... deny it.. change the subject and if she contunies tell her nicely and straight up that u dont wanna listen about her ex
 

sexy_kuta

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 1, 2006
Messages
1,080
Reaction score
10
Age
36
Location
NY
if u start falling for this chick.. back off.. start spinning MORE plates..
once u fall for them then ur fuked
 

omgwtfm8

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 26, 2006
Messages
166
Reaction score
1
Most girls come w/ baggage, so you want me to just distance them? I know not to mention exes or bring them up.

I know this information because when I started to talk to the girl, her friends told me stuff.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

sexy_kuta

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 1, 2006
Messages
1,080
Reaction score
10
Age
36
Location
NY
omgwtfm8 said:
Most girls come w/ baggage, so you want me to just distance them? I know not to mention exes or bring them up.

I know this information because when I started to talk to the girl, her friends told me stuff.
yes distance them.. have them just a small part of them in ur life..

who cares what her friends told u.. they will tell u alot.. they will also tell u that she likes u..

trust me i been there, if she starts to like u really fast and out of no where.. like in a week u can clearly see her interest level rising fast... BACK THE FUK OFF

just keep it steady.. shes in NO condition for a relationship
 

MightyMate

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 9, 2005
Messages
1,400
Reaction score
2
Girls who can't let go from the ex boyfriend who only calls her for sex when he's lonely ------- not gf material, slut
Girls who talk to their ex, remain friends and hang out ---- just tell u dont like that so they have to quit
Girls who are just talking with other guys ---- same
Girls who can't get over their ex. --- not material for anything
 

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
I've come to realize that all women have baggage. The question is whether you want to be with a woman that has a steamer trunk that she wants you to carry or one which has an over the shoulder carry on that she carries herself.
 

sexy_kuta

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 1, 2006
Messages
1,080
Reaction score
10
Age
36
Location
NY
u gonna be wastin a few months if u try to go for this chick...

just give her space. chill with her once every week or two... no more than that,

stay distance.. make sure u have ur OWN life outside of her and DOnt treat her like ur gf.. talking all night long.. phoning her to let her know u just won something or **** like

hit on her flirt with her.. do the things u would do for a normal girl but distance.. very distance,
 
Top