"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girls w/ baggage

omgwtfm8

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Why does it seem that all the girls that are relationship material always come w/ some sort of baggage.

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Girls who can't let go from the ex boyfriend who only calls her for sex when he's lonely.
Girls who talk to their ex, remain friends and hang out
Girls who are just talking with other guys
Girls who can't get over their ex.

How do i deal with these girls in this situation? I haven't met a decent girl in the past 3 months with out some sort of baggage. I started hitting things off with a new chick, but she's flakey do to her ex boyfriend, who cheated a bunch of times, etc.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SamePendo

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How would you know those things?

Don't talk about those things in the first place. Let them btych after you fvck them, that way, their whyning seems to take another meaning, since now, they're yours.
 

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best thing is to chill with them but not too often.. ONCe a week.. and give them space, let them do the more calling,, Ie: let them call u more,

they need to relized what they want.. .trust me.. i chased a girl for 3 months... i was the rebound, u dont wanna go that route.. and shes a LTR material too

best thing is have some sort of contact wit her but not too much, talk to her once a while and NO MATTER WHAT dont listen to her talkin about her ex NEVER not ONCE... deny it.. change the subject and if she contunies tell her nicely and straight up that u dont wanna listen about her ex
 

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if u start falling for this chick.. back off.. start spinning MORE plates..
once u fall for them then ur fuked
 

omgwtfm8

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Most girls come w/ baggage, so you want me to just distance them? I know not to mention exes or bring them up.

I know this information because when I started to talk to the girl, her friends told me stuff.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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sexy_kuta

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omgwtfm8 said:
Most girls come w/ baggage, so you want me to just distance them? I know not to mention exes or bring them up.

I know this information because when I started to talk to the girl, her friends told me stuff.
yes distance them.. have them just a small part of them in ur life..

who cares what her friends told u.. they will tell u alot.. they will also tell u that she likes u..

trust me i been there, if she starts to like u really fast and out of no where.. like in a week u can clearly see her interest level rising fast... BACK THE FUK OFF

just keep it steady.. shes in NO condition for a relationship
 

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Girls who can't let go from the ex boyfriend who only calls her for sex when he's lonely ------- not gf material, slut
Girls who talk to their ex, remain friends and hang out ---- just tell u dont like that so they have to quit
Girls who are just talking with other guys ---- same
Girls who can't get over their ex. --- not material for anything
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I've come to realize that all women have baggage. The question is whether you want to be with a woman that has a steamer trunk that she wants you to carry or one which has an over the shoulder carry on that she carries herself.
 

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u gonna be wastin a few months if u try to go for this chick...

just give her space. chill with her once every week or two... no more than that,

stay distance.. make sure u have ur OWN life outside of her and DOnt treat her like ur gf.. talking all night long.. phoning her to let her know u just won something or **** like

hit on her flirt with her.. do the things u would do for a normal girl but distance.. very distance,
 
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