"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Girls view most guys like we do sarge mates

everywomanshero

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Do you really want to know why women flake like crazy on guys with poor game and sometimes even on guys who have a fair understanding?

Close your eyes. You can't go sarging one evening because you are bsy with one of your hottest gfs. Imagine an all too eager guy friend with nothing going on gets pissed at you for not going out. If this happened a few times, you'd probably start ducking his calls and find him annoying. If you have many other sarge mates, you'd probably more or less stop returning his calls. You (assuming) haven't known him that long, and you don't really find him as valuable as the HBs you have lined up to be banged that night.

Guess what? Girls view most guys as annoying sarge mates. That's why they flake. If called on the behavior, they just disappear or say the guy is creepy. WHY? Because they are doing something that has more value to them than these clowns. Girls have a ton of clowns bugging them already, and these guys have lower value than other men/gfs/things going on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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everywomanshero said:
If you have many other sarge mates, you'd probably more or less stop returning his calls.

WTF is a sarge mate?

Aren't those called friends? Do you really go out with a group of guys with the intention of getting women?
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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mrRuckus said:
WTF is a sarge mate?

Aren't those called friends? Do you really go out with a group of guys with the intention of getting women?
lol i was thinking the same thing....
 

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Make this another person who does not know what the hell a sarge mate is.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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OMG, a sarge-mate = a wing.

A guy who can reliably wing with you. Newsflash, most guys are AFC. They don't have game, and they will help get you blown out.

Doesn't mean they're bad people and can't make good friends. But not always the best people to sarge with.

This is a good analogy too. This is why if a girl flakes, you don't blow up at her or get all serious and present her with the "rules of your reality." You just act like it doesn't phase you (better if it REALLY doesn't) and hang out with another chick, preferably letting her know subtly that you're not gonna just sit at home and mope because she's flaking.

Then she has no negative memories she can associate with you.
 

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Yes, sarge mate == wing.

It doesn't have to be this termimology, it can be an annoying guy who wants to be friends or a guy in whatever hobbby you're active in... surely, you guys do have hobbies don't you? I hope you do, because that's one of the things that really has helped me have a larger social circle and be an interesting person.

I know it makes a lot of guys who aren't getting the success they want with women upset to hear this, but trust me most guys are annoyingly comon to women. They would rather sleep with a guy who they know probably has a lot of fires going (like me) than some boring, generic guy who doesn't have a soul and desperately wants to fit in and strives to become/stay average. The good news is you too can escape this fate. It';s worth the effort since most guys will never do this and their gfs/wives will keep "just going out to dance", meeting me, and "then it just happened".

Hey, I'm just telling what I've learned. I didn't make the rules, and I used to not get this stuff at all. This isn't a high and mighty thing, but unless you get this then you are in serious trouble with women.
 
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