"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Girls turning bitter

Aesthetix29

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Once a realtionship breaks down (in my case she ended it) and you part ways, why is it that they turn bitter... Eg. Block you everyway possible and spread rumours (in my case) she ended it ... So why would she do this? Especially when we had good times and memories. I can't seem too understand the reasons behind this. NO NEED!!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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To avoid cognitive dissonance. It makes them both feel and appear vindicated.

Her: "That fvcking @sshole! I hate him with all my heart!"
The crowd: "We agree! You did the right thing! You go girl!!!!"

It's a way to drown out the echoes of doubt. Once she achieves that, then she can sleep much easier at night.
 

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Haha I could understand if I finished her but it's the other way round so basically the ball was in her court ... There was no need for her too do this. It's just really immature. I have a feeling she has a guilty conscience, and rather than her admit it and tell me the reasons she decided too spread nasty rumours about me in which once people hear they will form opinions. Seriously just when you think you know someone and think they're a nice person ... BOOM! VILE CREATURES!
 

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Aesthetix29 said:
Haha I could understand if I finished her but it's the other way round so basically the ball was in her court ... There was no need for her too do this. It's just really immature. I have a feeling she has a guilty conscience, and rather than her admit it and tell me the reasons she decided too spread nasty rumours about me in which once people hear they will form opinions. Seriously just when you think you know someone and think they're a nice person ... BOOM! VILE CREATURES!
That's exactly it, never underestimate a girl's ability to rationalize her poor behavior/character. She'll always try to make herself look like the victim or good guy.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Or maybe she is mad because you didn't beg her, didn't send any love letters to get her back.:rockon:
 

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Maybe ... Once she finished via text I didn't even reply.. I don't beg, it was her choice at the end of the day... Suppose I'll never know! The thing is I'm kinda seeing this HB8 who's 21 and she likes and comments on all my social media and I reckon she's seen this and it's made her pissed haha! I kind of like the phrase ' if it's not broken don't fix it' which doesn't answer why she ended in the first place. Who knows but this b!tch will get found out eventually!!
 

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If she's doing that....you've definitely done something right post breakup. Stand back, get popcorn and beer, and enjoy your new celebrity status within your social circle.
 

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Well that's good too know... As you said I'm just going to stand back and watch!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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VladPatton said:
If she's doing that....you've definitely done something right post breakup. Stand back, get popcorn and beer, and enjoy your new celebrity status within your social circle.
True....

She doesn't realize this but she is actually pumping you when she runs you down.

What other women think when they see/hear this: "Wow, she is ticked... she must have really cared about him. I wonder what he has...."
 

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If that's the case then why did she finish it ? And don't forget the rumours that she has spread are not little ones but nasty ... "Like I've been taking drugs in front of her son" which is complete and utter BS! I mean don't get me wrong I've moved on, and I seeing other girls etc... But I'd really like too get to the bottom of it as I can't help but think WHY? I treated her good. Also on the rumour part I can imagine Chinese whispers has a big part too play .. You know every time someone hears it they add there own little twist on it. On another note she only lives 5 mins away from me so I'm going too bump into her sooner or later ... What's the best way to deal with this?
 

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Aesthetix29 said:
... why is it that they turn bitter...
Who gives a sh!t? It is what it is. Avoid her, build up social circles that don't involve her, and work on yourself until you get someone who is worthy of you.

Eventually the bitterness will melt away and she will only remember the good times.

P.S. Here is the technical answer to your question. We have layers of genes and mutations and evolution piled on top of each other, evolved over hundreds of millions of years. Somewhere in this jumble of interweaving genes is an vague instruction that says "if your relationship ends then act bitter". There is no reason for this instruction except that over millions of years women who followed it had a better reproductive success rate on average than women who didn't. But the key thing is that they do not know why they are doing it and hence you will never get a logical answer if you ask them.
 

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Pairplusroyalflush nailed it.

A woman's first instinct is to take care of herself, most are incredibly selfish by nature. So they will throw you under the bus to protect their ego and self image. Anything to avoid having to look inside themselves and perhaps realize they contributed to the disintegration of a relationship. Anything to avoid responsibility.

-Augustus-
 

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The bitterness(which is another form of investment) is her self-entitled way of saying you handled the situation like a champ.

Good job OP and goodbye to her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks bro... Just got too work and the work collegue who has spread these rumours just came up too me and said you had a good weekend, I'm like yeah of course .. And she says her daughter saw me on my home day after I went out .. And started asking me questions like who with etc... I'll give you once guess who she'll be reporting back too haha! Funny Sh!t!
 

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Well thought I'd have a quick look on POF and low and behold guess who pops up! The ex! Haha
 

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Well thought I'd have a quick look on POF and low and behold guess who pops up ... The ex! Haha
 
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