Ok, no bull****e here, all im looking for a decent explanation or ideas as to why it really matters to women about your relationship with you mother. Shouldnt it be your father as he is the figure ur trying most to emulate? or are they just trying to see how your treat a woman who you've spent quite a chunk of your life with?
"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
Girls, Their Mothers and Your Mother....
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Okra
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If you can't treat your own mother with kindness and respect then how are you supposed to act around everybody else. I think it is just a test to see how you treat the number 1 woman in your life. She doesn't want to see you emulating her.
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My mother was an alcoholic and used to beat me with an extension cord. How the **** am I supposed to treat that "with kindness and respect" eh?
Some things don't need over-analyzation. You should accept it and move on.
You still need an explanation? Ok, here it goes: she is interested in your relationship with your mother simply because she is sure that your father doesn't advice you to buy her (not you mother) flowers.
You still need an explanation? Ok, here it goes: she is interested in your relationship with your mother simply because she is sure that your father doesn't advice you to buy her (not you mother) flowers.
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Women want to know how you treat a woman that you're NOT interested in banging.
This includes your mother, sister, waitresses at a restaurant, people on the street...
They know that eventually in a long-term relationship, passion tapers off and you need more than just sexual attraction to stay together. If you treat your mom like a dog, you'll more than likely end up treating your wife the same way (unless you want nookie).
It also helps screen for family drama in general...we all know how f**ked up that can leave people.
And good upbringing.
That extension cord sh*t...not much you can do about that...but you should at least have some pity for your mother now. You shouldn't be "plotting revenge on the b!tch", if you know what I mean.
This includes your mother, sister, waitresses at a restaurant, people on the street...
They know that eventually in a long-term relationship, passion tapers off and you need more than just sexual attraction to stay together. If you treat your mom like a dog, you'll more than likely end up treating your wife the same way (unless you want nookie).
It also helps screen for family drama in general...we all know how f**ked up that can leave people.
And good upbringing.
That extension cord sh*t...not much you can do about that...but you should at least have some pity for your mother now. You shouldn't be "plotting revenge on the b!tch", if you know what I mean.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.