"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Girls that were abused when younger or had a bad childhood
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
DonGorgon
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Don't have a girlfriend now, but it's better than the bullsh1t she would have put me through. I went through about a week of it before I realized I'd rather jerk off than spend another day dealing with her.
Seriously, don't bother with a chick that has these issues. If you really need to hit it, then do it once and then kick her to the curb. I'd rather you dump her and never know how right I was, than be sitting in a holding cell next to Bubba, wishing you had listened to Galactus.
Don't have a girlfriend now, but it's better than the bullsh1t she would have put me through. I went through about a week of it before I realized I'd rather jerk off than spend another day dealing with her.
Seriously, don't bother with a chick that has these issues. If you really need to hit it, then do it once and then kick her to the curb. I'd rather you dump her and never know how right I was, than be sitting in a holding cell next to Bubba, wishing you had listened to Galactus.
Don't have a girlfriend now, but it's better than the bullsh1t she would have put me through. I went through about a week of it before I realized I'd rather jerk off than spend another day dealing with her.
Seriously, don't bother with a chick that has these issues. If you really need to hit it, then do it once and then kick her to the curb. I'd rather you dump her and never know how right I was, than be sitting in a holding cell next to Bubba, wishing you had listened to Galactus.
Don't have a girlfriend now, but it's better than the bullsh1t she would have put me through. I went through about a week of it before I realized I'd rather jerk off than spend another day dealing with her.
Seriously, don't bother with a chick that has these issues. If you really need to hit it, then do it once and then kick her to the curb. I'd rather you dump her and never know how right I was, than be sitting in a holding cell next to Bubba, wishing you had listened to Galactus.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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At best they'll develop a dependence on you, and at worst they themselves will be abusive towards you. I wish this wasn't true, but you just can't change peoples' very basic motivations and insecurities without years of psychotherapy.
Plus, do you really want to be someone's psychiatrist? Some guys love the idea that they're saving a woman from a bad situation or even from herself, and I let those guys take care of these women.
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I wodner if my mum was abused or something happened with men. I was brought up alone with just her never any men around, she had no bfs, always say most men are *******s,,,she has dated 3 or 4 in my life and all respective men like very respectable jobs etc...never any player type dudes but most off time she alone.Deadly_Ripped said:
Absolutely. One of these girls sexually abused me by withholding sex (when she was staying at my place for days on end) and then finally giving in (but telling me to hurry up), all the while telling me about all the other men she had slept with (who she claimed she was equally abusive towards). On top of that, she was verbally abusive and emotionally abusive. Quite simply, she enjoyed hurting people, especially her ex-husband. Stay away from these women.Deadly_Ripped said:
I'm beginning to think that some guys inherently have less aggressive instincts than others. Aggression & indifference keeps these women in line. You sweet talk them with words & abuse them with actions, ignore them, fvck them & not call for days etc. (this is all stuff I did before ever knowing what a neg hit was).
If you're doing it right....this should be the pattern you see.
Step 1 - She's always trying to see you.
Step 2 - When she can't see you, she uses a barrage of phone calls & texts.
Step 3 - Failing that, she contacts any friends of yours she knows to ascertain your location.
Step 4 - When she sees you she's ultra affectionate & submissive.
Step 5 - She is constantly trying to expend your sexual energy by fulfilling every need(so you have nothing left for her competition).
Step 6 - She'll do everything in her power to then extract a ton of attention from you, in what should be your most relaxed/weakest moment.
Step 7 - During steps 1-4, she'll be whining & complaining about how terrible you treat her. This is the important part...
Feel free to repeat this cycle until you get bored of her. Usually any guy who is good looking + aggressive + confident will have these kinds of girls at his mercy. If you're lacking looks wise....increase the aggression.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is a good general strategy for most women, and might work with damaged goods if you know in advance they are crazy, but normally by the time you find out they are damaged goods you have already been abused by them (and the relationship is never the same). Also, this pattern is remarkably similar to what already happened with my damaged goods example(s) - but once you actually like them (the goal of any relationship) it's all over. (Their condition is also called BPD). These women turn their back on you overnight, especially if they find themselves falling for you.Kirro said: