"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girls that were abused / abandoned / raped
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Also one of my old fuk buddies got abused when she was about 12, and she was nearly raped. Shes like my best friend and we totally trust each other but sometimes if im too dominate i can see she gets scared and it brings back horrible memories for her. We dont talk about it much even though we talk everyday, its just one of those things that doesnt get brought up until something catastrophic happens.
Last one i promise, this one is the one im not proud of. I went on a first date with a women, she was about 24 and i was just testing some stuff out. The fact that at 17 i got a date with a 24 year old is beyond me! Anyway, we met up and got talking about general rubbish and somehow within about 20 minutes we got onto the topic of this woman being abused by her dad when she was a kid. Then we were just walking in this wood and i just decided to kiss her, then she sucked me off in a bush there and then. I left and i havent seen her since.
Actually I guess I have one last story, its a personal one which i have only told a handful of people. Most of my friends would tell you that i am one of the most sexual people they know, but what they dont know is why. I place one of the reasons why im so sexual on the fact that i had my first sexual experience when i was ridiculously young, i was about 5-6 years old when i first had sex. (dont even ask, just trust me it happened and i tried to forget about it) and then when i was 13 i did it again, and tried to forget about it. Then i got to 14 and started to enjoy it and here we are today.
Overall, i'd say all of those girls were pretty sexual but mentally, they really need looking after. Personally, i dont seek out these women but you never know whats happened in someones past.
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What you want to look for is any way that it affects the dynamic of the relationship. For example, if she seems uncomfortable during intimacy because of it, cries at random, or even something more subtle like getting upset when you aren't around or being very possessive and controlling.
If she ever tries to use it DIRECTLY to manipulate your behavior, i.e. tries to get you to do something/not do something for her by talking about how hard her life has been and how she "deserves" something...then you need to find a way out from under her as quickly as possible.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Quoted for TRUTH. The fact that a woman tells you about it is the beginning of the manipulation not the end.squirrels said:
I've dated 3 "rape" victims. Each time I heard about the rape was when they wanted me to do something major (commit, stop seeing other girls, move in together). Each time I listened to their story and still refused to do what they wanted. Each time they broke up with me soon after and started dating soemone else. Call me cynical but this is what life has shown me.
I know a couple of girls who have actually been abused and raped and they do not broadcast it, in fact its a badge of shame for them. They don't want people to know about it. These are my experiences.