I have a friend that admits that she has two guys she dates. When she isn't dating one, she dates the other. One of the guys cheated on her, but they are back together and claims they love each other and worked things out. Also she told me that her relationships usually only last a month (whether thats true or not, I don't know). Attention wh0re, bpd, or just plain scary?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Girls that go back to thier ex's
- Thread starter jmeredi
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Doesn't matter what she is.
I'm really curious as to why it is that some people want to know what the girl is. People are weird creatures. They do many odd things. Some things you might consider evil, some things you might consider beyond the order of nature. But that's that. It's not like the HBs of our species are 'angelic' beings.
Plus the people you 'think' are normal or good could in all actuality be in fact a sadistic psycho who likes to masturbate in their own feces.
So..... about girls, I don't care what they are. They could be so many things. I just wonder whether they would like to fvck me. In which case, I've got to find that out from her. Get it?
I'm really curious as to why it is that some people want to know what the girl is. People are weird creatures. They do many odd things. Some things you might consider evil, some things you might consider beyond the order of nature. But that's that. It's not like the HBs of our species are 'angelic' beings.
Plus the people you 'think' are normal or good could in all actuality be in fact a sadistic psycho who likes to masturbate in their own feces.
So..... about girls, I don't care what they are. They could be so many things. I just wonder whether they would like to fvck me. In which case, I've got to find that out from her. Get it?
But then other people's answers are meaningless. If you want opinions, it would be better if you could give more details so that the people giving you some answers can actually do it and not feel like they're totally assuming details about the whole thing.
I suppose you're just curious as to how others would interpret your situation. That's fair. If you're still looking for some answers, try mentioning whether she fvcks these guys everytime she meets them, whether she sees herself having a LTR with any of these guys she gets with, whether she seems confident with what she's doing with these two guys or whether she seems hesitant or confused with her situation. Stuff like these would help in judging whether she's just plain dumb and confused or whether she knows what she wants and she's letting herself loose.
I suppose you're just curious as to how others would interpret your situation. That's fair. If you're still looking for some answers, try mentioning whether she fvcks these guys everytime she meets them, whether she sees herself having a LTR with any of these guys she gets with, whether she seems confident with what she's doing with these two guys or whether she seems hesitant or confused with her situation. Stuff like these would help in judging whether she's just plain dumb and confused or whether she knows what she wants and she's letting herself loose.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tell me the truth, are you the "other" guy?Originally posted by jmeredi
she seems more or less confused.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Well what happens sometimes is girls delude themselves into thinking things are going to be different when they actually aren't.
I have come accross this many times, and it has also been a proven weapon of influence identified by Robert Cialidini in "influence: the psychology of persuasion".
Sometimes our thought process can be really screwed with. See, what can happen is we think we don't want something anymore unless a condition is met. For example a girl won't go back to a guy unless he quits drinking.
Now what can happen is he can pretend he quit drinking, so that the condition is met, and she will be happy convinced things are different.
And here's the kicker: the feeling that things are different and the actions that took place because the conditions were met REMAIN SO even if the original demand is withdrawn.
For example, a few weeks into the relationship he can start drinking again and she will probably not leave him for it.
Why? Who knows! Its the way our brain is wired. Sometimes we make decisions based on certain conditions and we stick to those decisions even if the original conditions are pulled back.
This explains why girls have problems in relationships, break up because of them, then the guy sweet talks them or they "work out" their problems (when in fact theyve just put a temporary band aid on them) and they get back together, only to have the same problems later.
Rinse, Repeat.
Now that you're aware of this psychological weapon of influence, feel free to use it. A lot of people already do without even thinking about it.
I have come accross this many times, and it has also been a proven weapon of influence identified by Robert Cialidini in "influence: the psychology of persuasion".
Sometimes our thought process can be really screwed with. See, what can happen is we think we don't want something anymore unless a condition is met. For example a girl won't go back to a guy unless he quits drinking.
Now what can happen is he can pretend he quit drinking, so that the condition is met, and she will be happy convinced things are different.
And here's the kicker: the feeling that things are different and the actions that took place because the conditions were met REMAIN SO even if the original demand is withdrawn.
For example, a few weeks into the relationship he can start drinking again and she will probably not leave him for it.
Why? Who knows! Its the way our brain is wired. Sometimes we make decisions based on certain conditions and we stick to those decisions even if the original conditions are pulled back.
This explains why girls have problems in relationships, break up because of them, then the guy sweet talks them or they "work out" their problems (when in fact theyve just put a temporary band aid on them) and they get back together, only to have the same problems later.
Rinse, Repeat.
Now that you're aware of this psychological weapon of influence, feel free to use it. A lot of people already do without even thinking about it.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Well if what you see happening is what I described earlier, you could simply point out to her that nothings really changed and ask her for the reasons she broke up with the guy and make her honestly assess whether or not those reasons are still in play.
Maybe even tell her about the weapon of influence and how it works, perhaps then she'll see that her situation is a textbook case of it and break her instinct and dump him.
But in order to make an assesment on whether or not this is happening you'd have to know her reasons for breaking up with the guy and the conditions under which they got back together.
Maybe even tell her about the weapon of influence and how it works, perhaps then she'll see that her situation is a textbook case of it and break her instinct and dump him.
But in order to make an assesment on whether or not this is happening you'd have to know her reasons for breaking up with the guy and the conditions under which they got back together.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
Why do you guys care what her $lutty history is... If she is decent, game her and then satisfy your manly desires by blowin your load on her face...
Let the next AFC she goes out with deal with it...
Let the next AFC she goes out with deal with it...