Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girls that don't make eye contact

stevey_2000

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Hi my fellow DJ's, nice to be back!!,

just come back from travelling abroad for a few months but the question i have to ask is this...

i have very often come across girls that, when i have been with my friends, i've been talking to, questions i have asked them BUT made eye contact with my friends while answering my questions, is this a good sign or a bad sign?, someone told me that if a girl doesn't make eye contact with you while in conversation with you likes you, how about you guys and your experiences??

cheers,

Ste.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So pimp its scary

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I'm not sure if I understand the question, but, in my experience girls that don't look you in the eye are either a) shy, b) is unusually attracted to you or c) not attracted to you.

You can usually tell by their OTHER actions which case that it is. In your case, if she is looking your friends in the eye, then she may likely be more attracted to your friends.

IF though, she looks them in the eyes but at the same time shows all the other signs of being attracted to you, then it's just that she is intimidated by your eyes.

You'll really have to judge that one for yourself.
 

Freeman

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Originally posted by stevey_2000
Hi my fellow DJ's, nice to be back!!,

just come back from travelling abroad for a few months but the question i have to ask is this...

i have very often come across girls that, when i have been with my friends, i've been talking to, questions i have asked them BUT made eye contact with my friends while answering my questions, is this a good sign or a bad sign?, someone told me that if a girl doesn't make eye contact with you while in conversation with you likes you, how about you guys and your experiences??

cheers,

Ste.
This is something that you will have to figure out on your own..In situations like this one-you have to play it by ear..

-ONE-
 

Don Juanabbe

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That's right. I've met plenty of women throughout my lifetime who acted totally disinterested in me, yet paid attention to everyone else, and alot of the time it was because they had a very high interest in me. I know this because invariably they'd get more comfortable with me and I was able to get with them.
 

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How about girls that make eye contact for a split second then look away (walking down the street)?

or girls that are obviously trying not to make eye contact with people (me?) by staring at the ground or the wall while they walk?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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insidious

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I think this dynamic that we call "EC" is very interesting and subjective. Unfortunately it seems a lot of us hang our ego/self-esteem/state on this strange phenomena, which is fine, but the problem is, eye contact is very tempestuous and unreliable, like most women :rolleyes:

The same woman who might one day give you killer EC as you approach her on the street and just make your day brighter may the next day, for a variety of reasons which you will never know, totally ignore your eager and ****y a$$ and just dump your state into shytville - and you can never really know why without her explanation.

EC is a useful tool but it should be used and considered wisely. Don't put all your eggs in the EC basket cause frankly, it's just a small battle in a much larger and grueling war.

I have this chick buddy, we hang out. There are times, when her self-esteem is lagging, that she just smiles at strangers, men, many of whom she feels no attraction for, and it helps her feel better. No doubt there are tons of men who proceed to think they are the kings of the world thinking they've made smiling EC with some strange woman, but in reality, they were tools.
 
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