"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girls that don't give you anything to talk about...

NEWBIE101

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How do you conversate with them?

For instance...I was talking quickly to this girl today, she was behind me in the hall.

Me- Hey *****. What's up?

Her- Hey Matt.

Me- How was your weekend?

Her- It was ok.

Me- What did you do?

Her- I don't know...nothing really.

See? I can get the convo going, but then they don't give me anything to go on. Any tips on how to break this barrier?

BTW, please don't tell me to go read the bible.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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blienk

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You can tell her about what you did, assuming its something interesting. Or ask her something about the class you were just in, where she's going next, etc....

If a girl never really gives you anything to work with, it's probably a sign she's not interested in talking to you.
 

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GO READ THE BIBLE!



lol, just kidding. You have to take the reigns and control the topics (at least for the beginning til they warm up to you) My first advice would be to stay away from generic questions that any average person asks on a regular basis. try and think up a unique question that she isn't asked often. If it is emotion related chicks are more likely to relate. If you are going to start a convo with a generic question remember:Try and talk/ask a question about something she enjoys, for example

Her- I don't know...nothing really.
Matt-(talks about a wide array of things, one of which she was bound to enjoy) I stayed at home and watched (insert movie title here) it was a good movie (proceed to tell her about the movie and ask her questions

Add humour to loosen up both yourself and the target

Her- I don't know...nothing really.
Matt- Sounds like you live a party life! Me and my friends are having a get together this weekend. Since your weekends are sooo jammed pack, you think you could squeeze in a time slot for the party?

Also you said you were talking in the hall, try and get her to talk with you when she isn't pressed for time and running to the next class. She'll be more willing to divulge into a better conversation, and her focus will be on you. Honestly though, some good conversation tips are in the bible, NOT only under conversation, but also some helpful ideas are in the Speed Seduction are by xxblitzxx. Check em out. GL
 

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Originally posted by Microphone Fiend
GO READ THE BIBLE!



lol, just kidding. You have to take the reigns and control the topics (at least for the beginning til they warm up to you) My first advice would be to stay away from generic questions that any average person asks on a regular basis. try and think up a unique question that she isn't asked often. If it is emotion related chicks are more likely to relate. If you are going to start a convo with a generic question remember:Try and talk/ask a question about something she enjoys, for example

Her- I don't know...nothing really.
Matt-(talks about a wide array of things, one of which she was bound to enjoy) I stayed at home and watched (insert movie title here) it was a good movie (proceed to tell her about the movie and ask her questions

Add humour to loosen up both yourself and the target

Her- I don't know...nothing really.
Matt- Sounds like you live a party life! Me and my friends are having a get together this weekend. Since your weekends are sooo jammed pack, you think you could squeeze in a time slot for the party?

Also you said you were talking in the hall, try and get her to talk with you when she isn't pressed for time and running to the next class. She'll be more willing to divulge into a better conversation, and her focus will be on you. Honestly though, some good conversation tips are in the bible, NOT only under conversation, but also some helpful ideas are in the Speed Seduction are by xxblitzxx. Check em out. GL
Good ****!

Thanks for the insight man. :)
 

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Some people don't like small talk. What you really need to talk about is something she's interested in. There's this one girl, molly, she's real shy, and doesn't really talk to anyone, but when i asked her about figure skating, which is her number one hobby, she opened up and wouldn't shut up. Not that i'm complaining. End result, I've got a date to prom, and if all goes well, hopefully more than that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Jerky Boi

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Yeah, I really try to avoid small talk all the time. I have really bad skills when it comes to convos on the comp, but I hardly ever run into problems in person or on the phone. Try to sway the convo away from talking about yourself and get her to do the talking. In general, just keep it interesting :]
 
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