"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girls that dont carry a conversation

mhs09

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Theres this girl i met a couple months ago at six flags shes one of my friends little sisters she gave me alot of IOI's that day and we were using a lot of kino she also got on my back and i gave her a piggyback ride and she said something into my ear in a sexy whisper but i didnt really here what she said. i thought everything was going good for me and after that day we texted every once in a while and she always thought some of the stuff i said was cute. but she is the kinda girl that doesnt really know what to talk about when you ask her to change the subject which sucks cause i always have to think of what to talk about. So today i saw her and when we got in a car she wanted to sit next to me but every time i asked her something she would answer but wouldn't ask anything back she was pushing me in the car so i would push her back we did this almost the whole time and she was also kinda acting like a ***** that day too so im confused does she still like me or not and how could i get her to talk more?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mhs09

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so her acting like a ***** the other day wasn't bad thing and what am i suppose to do to get her to talk more?
 

john paul

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yea i agree with chapstick.
theres no talking involved when your kissing her, make your move
 

ElStud

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It has nothing to do with her not being able to carry on a conversation. She just isn't interested enough in you to say anything back. Plus, your whole mindset is bad, you're not asking her questions simply because you're interested, you're asking her questions because you feel the social awkwardness when she doesn't say anything. So how do you get her to talk more? Raise her buying temperature and interest basically. You can do this by negging her, C+Fing and stuff like that. It's obvious that it's not to the point yet where you should be trying to vibe. And overall just lose that "Expecting" mindset, where you say something expecting her to react.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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