Before I start, Im a naturally attractive guy. I maintain good eye contact, have good posture, and am pretty good at conversation. A few months ago, I wasn't good at conversation at all because I was too afraid of saying something offensive or being straight up boring... Anyway, I switched the game up and got a lot better at maintaining some good convo. I found that its a lot easier to have natural conversation if you tease them and poke fun at em a little bit. I think that this works like 75% of the time but 25% of the girls take it seriously and think Imma douche... Anybody have experience with this?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Girls taking teasing seriously?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
DonJuanabe
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IMO, girls who don't "get" teasing generally are the same ones who don't have much of a sense of humor, tend to be negative and serious about things, etc. They're not all that enjoyable to spend time with -- anyone agree or disagree with this?
Yea, some girls are just real sensitive like that. You're not going to win them all. But couple of things to keep in mind, when you poke fun at them keep away from things they can't change. Things like their weight, acne (if any), etc. And remember to smile as your saying it. That's key. And if they take it too seriously, just give them a hug and say just kidding! And they'll get over it.DonJuanabe said:
It's all about calibration. Especially if you don't know the girl yet, tease her with 'bait' lines and see how she responds, then increase it as necessary if she 'gets it'. You'll probably still offend a few, tough luck. Depending on the particular situations, it should be less than 25% though. Maybe you just need more practice with it?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
They also tend to be the kind that everyone hates to work with: the sort of woman who'll call HR at the slightest provocation so it stresses out her co-workers as they feel like they're walking on eggshells around her.DonJuanabe said:
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
honestly it was just this one girl saying Imma douche
What did you say that offended her?
What did you say that offended her?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.