Before I start, Im a naturally attractive guy. I maintain good eye contact, have good posture, and am pretty good at conversation. A few months ago, I wasn't good at conversation at all because I was too afraid of saying something offensive or being straight up boring... Anyway, I switched the game up and got a lot better at maintaining some good convo. I found that its a lot easier to have natural conversation if you tease them and poke fun at em a little bit. I think that this works like 75% of the time but 25% of the girls take it seriously and think Imma douche... Anybody have experience with this?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girls taking teasing seriously?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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IMO, girls who don't "get" teasing generally are the same ones who don't have much of a sense of humor, tend to be negative and serious about things, etc. They're not all that enjoyable to spend time with -- anyone agree or disagree with this?
Yea, some girls are just real sensitive like that. You're not going to win them all. But couple of things to keep in mind, when you poke fun at them keep away from things they can't change. Things like their weight, acne (if any), etc. And remember to smile as your saying it. That's key. And if they take it too seriously, just give them a hug and say just kidding! And they'll get over it.DonJuanabe said:
It's all about calibration. Especially if you don't know the girl yet, tease her with 'bait' lines and see how she responds, then increase it as necessary if she 'gets it'. You'll probably still offend a few, tough luck. Depending on the particular situations, it should be less than 25% though. Maybe you just need more practice with it?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
They also tend to be the kind that everyone hates to work with: the sort of woman who'll call HR at the slightest provocation so it stresses out her co-workers as they feel like they're walking on eggshells around her.DonJuanabe said:
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honestly it was just this one girl saying Imma douche
What did you say that offended her?
What did you say that offended her?
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.