Before I start, Im a naturally attractive guy. I maintain good eye contact, have good posture, and am pretty good at conversation. A few months ago, I wasn't good at conversation at all because I was too afraid of saying something offensive or being straight up boring... Anyway, I switched the game up and got a lot better at maintaining some good convo. I found that its a lot easier to have natural conversation if you tease them and poke fun at em a little bit. I think that this works like 75% of the time but 25% of the girls take it seriously and think Imma douche... Anybody have experience with this?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Girls taking teasing seriously?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DonJuanabe
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IMO, girls who don't "get" teasing generally are the same ones who don't have much of a sense of humor, tend to be negative and serious about things, etc. They're not all that enjoyable to spend time with -- anyone agree or disagree with this?
Yea, some girls are just real sensitive like that. You're not going to win them all. But couple of things to keep in mind, when you poke fun at them keep away from things they can't change. Things like their weight, acne (if any), etc. And remember to smile as your saying it. That's key. And if they take it too seriously, just give them a hug and say just kidding! And they'll get over it.DonJuanabe said:
It's all about calibration. Especially if you don't know the girl yet, tease her with 'bait' lines and see how she responds, then increase it as necessary if she 'gets it'. You'll probably still offend a few, tough luck. Depending on the particular situations, it should be less than 25% though. Maybe you just need more practice with it?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
They also tend to be the kind that everyone hates to work with: the sort of woman who'll call HR at the slightest provocation so it stresses out her co-workers as they feel like they're walking on eggshells around her.DonJuanabe said:
Bible_Belt
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honestly it was just this one girl saying Imma douche
What did you say that offended her?
What did you say that offended her?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.