I eat lunch with a bunch of girls i'm friends. 2 of my guy friends sit with us too, but the majority or people are girls. We were talking about how one of my friends has a gf and how they can't imagine him with a gf. Then they brought up the subject of me and said that it's weird that I've never had a gf. I said in a joking way, "I guess i'm too much for girls to handle." Then one of my girlfriends responded with, "No, it's just the way you present yourself. You come off as really friendly and nice and people like you, but you flirt with EVERYONE, so girls can't really take you seriously." Flirting too much? I'm just friendly and social. I never really thought of myself that way. All of them agreed and said that it's not my looks. They actually said I'm attractive. They said that I'm not like most guys in that way. Another friend said that i have this image where it doesn't look like I try at all, so girls don't think I would ever like them. How do i fix that? I don't want to be viewed as some flirty guy who can't be taken seriously. I thought it was very interesting because i've never looked at myself that way until now, and i think it's true.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Girls say i'm too much of a flirt; can't be taken seriously?
- Thread starter Jokerlsk
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
pointbreak23
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dont listen to them, what girls say they want and what they actually want are two very different things. If you listen to what a girl says she wants, you will end up being whipped and she'll eventually leave you. they are telling you that your problem is that you are too good with women, does that actually sound like a problem to you?Jokerlsk said:
Indeed you cant be taken seriously.
Flirting too much isnt the problem, being too friendly is the problem.
You need to be threatening. Manly, clint eastwood. Be ****y funny, be arrogant, be powerful, be serious, be playful and flirty. Yes, you can do both. Its all body language, if you can do CF jokes when flirting with a dead serious look on your face, you win.
Iv never had any girls that were attracted to me describe me as 'nice' or 'friendly', infact they quite the opposite.
Cavemanning is best. Theres nothing more manly than going straight for the kill without joking around.
Flirting too much isnt the problem, being too friendly is the problem.
You need to be threatening. Manly, clint eastwood. Be ****y funny, be arrogant, be powerful, be serious, be playful and flirty. Yes, you can do both. Its all body language, if you can do CF jokes when flirting with a dead serious look on your face, you win.
Iv never had any girls that were attracted to me describe me as 'nice' or 'friendly', infact they quite the opposite.
Cavemanning is best. Theres nothing more manly than going straight for the kill without joking around.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Why would you listen to any woman not named Cinamon?
You hit the nail on the head.Ease said:
The OP is flirty but does not have the corresponding masculinity/dominance to go along with it.
Therefore, the OP becomes a bit too 'girly' so to speak.
The ideal man actually is a blend of both the masculine and the feminine.